Girl Talk 6-7-26 (I’m in love with 2 people at the same time)

This week on CockTales & GirlTalk, the ladies are tackling two topics guaranteed to start arguments in group chats and relationships everywhere!  First, let’s talk about the question nobody wants to answer honestly:  Can you truly be in love with two people at the same time?  Is it possible for your heart to genuinely belong to more than one person, or is that just an excuse people use when they don’t want to choose? If you have deep feelings for someone else while you’re in a committed relationship, does that mean you’re in love… or does it mean something is missing at home?  Then we’re diving into a phrase that instantly makes women stop and listen:  “I’m coming to you as a woman…”  Ladies, what does that phrase really mean? Is it sisterhood? A warning? A courtesy? Or is it code for “your man is doing something he shouldn’t be doing?” When should a woman approach another woman, and when should she mind her business?  Tonight we’re asking:  • Can your heart genuinely love two people at once? • Is emotional cheating worse than physical cheating? • Would you want another woman to tell you the truth? • And why does “I’m coming to you as a woman” make everybody nervous?  Pour your drink, grab your girls, and get ready for another unapologetic conversation that keeps it real.  CockTales & GirlTalk — where the drinks are poured, the filters come off, and the conversations get REAL. 🍸🔥💋

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:21

I'm just eating your galaway with a hope that she's saying Intrigger Kitty. Insigar Lady Led. Welcome to another episode of Cocktails and Girl Talk. Okay. Hey, just you know, cookie. Yes. Just two sisters. Just chatting it up a bit. Today my cocktails in water. Oh baby. Baby. I've been drinking since Thursday. Oh yeah, I just heard. No employee girl. What? Graduation drunk. Oh Lord. Friday played dominoes to I don't know what o'clock in the morning. Yesterday was Snoochie's birthday party and then drunk. Like oh lower. She said blue owl. Is that what you said? Blue out? No, I said blue. Oh, I thought you said blue owl out. So yummy. I noticed. Okay. So it's so funny because I am too joining Katie on her water journey. However, I broke my fast today. I see. I see. So partake in the recording festivities with you and you and then leave it. Well, yeah. No. See, this is why I gotta stay tuned. But you know what? I am really enjoying my little when you start with my cheat day. You like, you want me to get you something? I said, Oh no, she hit me with a known man with a whole bunch of hearts. Oh, some more water. And then I would have known. I'm not saying I'm not drinking, but there will be times. But I'm not even hung over. I'm just tired. Like you're just exhausted. Oh, yeah. And it's been like a bajillion degrees. Well, I wasn't drinking outside. That's the thing. See, that's the problem. You being air conditioned. So they beat the nice buzz, then you go outside. Like, what the f and that should get you all 90 degrees. First of all, the birthday party was supposed to end at six o'clock. But they cards were still working. So them kids stayed out there till about 8 30. Okay. I said as long as their cards working, they're not gonna come back. They don't care about no time. No, kids don't even have a perception of the time. So what is time? They can't even like it's time to go already. Already, we've been here since two o'clock. It's it over already. First of all, pull it down. You can see the whole tan line. Like you've been out in the sun all of the day, okay? You know what I'm saying? That well, that happened at the uh football game. But you see where my necklace is. Yeah, I do see. But you know what? At least you're not burning anymore. She gave me like I was burnt in a motherfucker. She does got it look nice now. Right, you do? I'm like, look, again, I feel good this time because I don't go outside. You gotta start wearing SPF. That's important. And they have a brand called Black Girls S PS. No, we do. I have to. All right, let's jump into this. Let's jump into this. Our first segment. So we're gonna run these segments, y'all. Y'all let us know how y'all feel, what y'all think about it. But our first segment is gonna be called A Shot of Reality. The question is can you be in love with two people? Yeah. In love? Yes. Actively in love, head over heels. I believe so. I believe the heart. What? Oh I'm just laughing at you. I wanna laugh. Um, because that's a little unorthodox, right? But let me explain myself. I do feel like you can be in love with two people at once, and I can believe that you can choose which one fits you better, right? So as a lover of all things, okay, as a lover of all things, and I I tell people I come in love. So you need a girl like me, and I'm gonna make you be ready to go to the altar in 30 seconds. Okay, and you know what? I said I wouldn't do it again, but the way that I have just been experienced in life, no, yeah, I probably won't do that again. Maybe not that one, but you know, but however, uh, I just I come in love, right? So it is easy to love me and probably someone else who you have like a deep tiny dream connection with, right? But we all see each other on different planes almost, right? So you can have a vibrant connection with somebody on like a business level and it be like a mentally perfect, like what you picture as perfect business relationship relationship in a creative in a creative space, not like a coworker. Um and then you can be with somebody who like you can tell like your deepest, darkest secrets to or something, and it could be a match, you know what I'm saying? Like I the love that you have for this person could ultimately be the same, and it's just about what you want, and it's about what what you feel like is good for yourself, even in that moment or in that that time screen. But that's me though. Again, y'all, I come to love, I think love is within you. Um yeah, say love is love, huh? Yeah, love is love. Yes, does that mean love is fine? I do not agree with that. I'm too shallow for love. You know what? But is that love, is that love or is that love? No, I'm saying like the actual show love is why you fall in love with somebody you've never met. I'm too shallow for that. See, and you know what's so funny is I feel like if you were on the other side of a wall, it's gonna phone up in the bear. And you had like a person who was like, oh, what's your favorite author? Or the someone who came once so intellectually sound. Yeah, we could find. You know, but then when the door opened, I'm like, what the fuck? But what if it's not like a visual takedown? What if it's yeah, what if it's actually not that bad? But you gotta be visually appealing, though. Like, do you have to be visually appealing? Like, I do I don't believe like looks may wear off like once you're with somebody for a long time. That's cool. Okay, that's cool. Okay, but on me, come on now. We got she said that's put forward always. Okay, I feel that I feel that I feel that's okay. Now you know, fell in love behind this wall, and now they look like a uh mock. What are we doing? What are we doing? They do, just not for me. All right, all right, I feel like every box has a top, however, I don't have to be the box with the top. Okay, she said no, not me to get somebody else to do it. All right, so there's no love is mine for Katie. No, no, no, no. But I do think you can be in love with two people at one time, but you would just love them differently. Yeah, like but I do think it can happen. Like, that's how like poly relationships happen. And you know what I'm saying? Like, I really think those all love each other, you know what I'm saying? For sure, romantically and intellectually. Yeah, so I do think it's possible. I think that I think that sometimes when you are entertaining two people separately, that you're you become lustful over what one person has given you or you're lacking over here. You know what I'm saying? Like if this, if you're talking to a guy who what they say, like the 80, 20, whatever. Yeah, so you're kicking it with a person and they doing all the things, but then over here, they're doing the one thing that this person isn't doing, so now you're finding yourself digging both of them because it's like I'm getting everything I want just from two different people, yeah. And then you fall in love or however, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, but I do think it's possible. I definitely think that's very possible. I um I think a lot of the some of the best connections and like the the the best character building experiences can come from having to consider if if you are one to consider other people's something, right? Because a lot of times you have people who are in love and lots of people who are kind of selfish, right? Because the focus is not you you can't remove yourself from something or you're wanting from something to only focus on one person. Um unless say that's the goal. Like, like you said, other relationships, one person is not the goal, it's to make both of these people happy. So I I I I feel like ultimately it's where it comes from. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Like if you're being dishonest and you're being shady, outright, cheating on your girl or your man, then maybe we should be code on the edge of the bed. Damn. And either one of them, like you still all over. However, well shit. Oh, and a bird, not to be golly. Like, uh, I'm not gonna say a girl like me, but let's say a girl like me who I can be transparent with, you know what I'm saying? Two love interests and say, hey, you know, I I really, really like you. I I I have this connection over here. Well, I really like them too. And is it okay with you that I share, not share, but um experience, you know, uh another thing or another entity, and it's all about the mental state. You know, sometimes if you're going to like oh, we're all humans. I just want to get a chance to experience the person trying to be so egotistic that operating out of it, like I'm not sharing. But you are, goddamn it. Really? I'm just trying to let you know you are, and that's all it's about. And for me, I think that's just what the biggest difference is. If you're being honest and transparent about what you what you're in sexual violence, you're not out here just like being a piece of shit and lying about things, and then yeah, multiple things going on and be like, oh, I thought it was because that's not supposed to hurt, right? Right. So if I find out that you are in love with another person, that shit's gonna hurt me, especially if I think I'm the only person that you love. However, if you don't offer it, like no, sure he is, she's the one. So I'm positive with me and 12 other people who have loved this girl, as long as you know, baby. I love you too. Blaze love kids, okay? I love everybody. I love kids.

unknown 10:31

Okay, I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_01 10:34

Okay, all right, let's get to the next segment. It is called Shaking Not Third. I got mine straight up. What do you think about the whole like I'm coming to you as a woman? Like, what is your take on the coming to you as a woman thing? I feel like it depends on where you are in the position. Um some may say I have been so uh lucky and fortunate enough to play every single role, right? Like I say all the parts. I have gotten a single one woman's show. Okay. But uh what I mean by that is like I've been a wife, okay. Um someone who was unknowing in the dark, you know what I'm saying? Um and as in my days as a wife, there was someone who I just needed to know, you know, that the things weren't other people weren't being truthful in this situation. Um, so I just wanted to know. So I mean, she could have she could have felt like you know, I was coming to her as a woman. Uh I I genuinely I didn't need any knowledge or bad intent. So I feel like for research purposes, sometimes you need to, but like and it's a double-edged story, and again, it just depends on what your role is in the relationship. Like, are you a side bitch? Are you going to the wife or the girlfriend or like the man trying to cause the ruckus? You need your ass beat and go sit your ass out somewhere. Stop touching shit. Exactly, exactly. Like if you or a person came up to you and was like, but I'm gonna take care of you, but you know, I got home to the baby girl in the stamps, shit like that, and you want to just be disruptive, no, I hate shit like that. Shut your ass up. But like, like I said, if if something just and like and not to speak too much into it, but like for my situation, for a lot of times, the other person who I was with, they worked with the public. So sometimes it was a lot of times where like I would see until numbers and with threads that I didn't think should uh don't let me see what making my location, then I'm definitely just blowing past it. And it was in some of those threads that I should have looked a little deeper. But you know, and it I had to. That's what I'm saying. I'm sorry, I just let me know because okay, you know what I'm saying? Like, no, I yeah, I probably didn't know you were there. I probably can take your luggage off your tires, I'm not going to relax. But you gotta just let me know. It's fine. Just let me know as a woman. Let me know, you know. And it's it's it's it's your desire, we can have information. I'm sorry, I'm giving like all wild ass answers today. That's the curl off part of things. But so for me, I don't I don't play like that. Like I've never I've never had a desire to have a conversation with another woman. Okay, so even in instances where ETM was caught doing stuff, my issue with him. I don't know this bitch. Yeah, she don't owe me shit. You know what I'm saying? And I if a if somebody came to me as a woman, first of all, I'm gonna ruin your life. Why give somebody else that power? Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Like, if you first of all, if you're calling me about a nigga, it gotta be my nigga because what other nigga isn't? Right now, for real. That's crazy. Right. Like, like I'm sorry, you say, are you okay? Like do you need help? Why are you calling me? But I just feel like when you go to someone else with questions, you're opening the door for them to tell you whatever it is that they want to tell you. You know what I'm saying? So even if it's not it, maybe it's nothing going on, but she wants something to go on, yeah. So you like, I just want to know like who you are, what y'all are, whatever. You give her the opportunity to be like, oh yeah, we fucked up. And the whole time she could be lying, right? Or or she knows about you already. So you coming to her as a woman, like, I want to know what's going on. It's just like, oh, we just friends, like the tricky without your spot. And you like, but I seen the messages, y'all just butt-naked pictures. Yeah, we I always send those to my friends. You know what I'm saying? So, like, why are we even why are we having a conversation? Because either way, you're gonna feed me what you want me to know, right? Right? So I might as well just go to the nigga, like, hey, right, what's T. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? So that I don't I don't know. I just don't. I've never done it and I don't agree with it. Yeah, only be only for those reasons alone. Like, why give this bitch the power? Why you even let her know that she got you shook? I got a mean right hook, that's something wild, okay? Next, though. Okay, I'm just saying, like, I just feel like that's too much power to give somebody else to be able to feed me whatever story you want me. You know what I'm saying? Like, whatever narrative you want. Yeah, that ain't cool. Cause who is like, you know what I'm saying? Because either way, at the end of the conversation, you're gonna probably feel worse. You know what I'm saying? So either she's gonna tell you some wild shit or she's gonna. So why even just go to the nigga, go to the nigga as a woman? You know what? Sir, I'm coming to you as a woman. What you deal with? So this is so funny that you say that because I have experienced that where I went, you know, digging doing my research and and was told, oh no, no, no, no, no, no. Hey, you know, it's not that. And I was like, give me your phone. She was like, eat my phone. I said no, yeah. Give me unlock it and give it to me. And just like a little bit, yeah, here you go. And I went and I scrolled. I want to say we were a year 2023, 2024, growing all the way back in 2021. Oh, and it was June C. And I only needed to see like Timbits, right? Like the snippets. I would scroll, scroll, scroll, stop, read that, some bullshit, read that, look at the pictures, and I'm looking at the bird girls like TRS, what the hell? So yeah, and it was you looked me at my face every day for as I don't know how many years this is fired for, and you fucking lied to me. Yeah, and it wasn't until I I stepped into a personal story because I'm invasive as fuck, okay? Like this is all allegedly, please do not take. But no, like, yeah, no, like allegedly, I have totally gone through another time before. But see, I am a very I don't like to I don't like to accept things until it's like uncomfortable, undeniably, you know what I'm saying? Like, no girl, no girl, because I believe in people, you know what I'm saying? Like, I believe in people, even in those instances, like my gut was telling me like they're lying. You know, you can look at both of these people and tell how fucking dumb they are, and you know they are lying, and I was like, maybe I'm just being too critical, maybe it's me, you know what I'm saying? Like, maybe it's me, maybe it's me, and it wasn't me, you know what I'm saying. So, again, to speak to what you she should never have had even that power to lie to, but that that's different though, because baby girls straight up playing in your face, yeah. Like, don't be in my face, fucking my nigga, bro. Yeah, that ain't come to you as a woman. That's like, bitch, you not even a woman. Like, what like you a bot, you know what I'm saying? Like you quote unquote my sense and this and that, you sleeping with my husband. That's crazy work. Well, you know what's so funny is as women, we need to stop adopting our men's, our men's and our maids, people until we know, you know, because I kind of walked into that situation just with my head on my ass. I'm not gonna lie, from the very beginning, yeah. Um, she never showed me any attribute for being worthy of being my sister. You know what I'm saying? I was just so accepting those how because he didn't have a bunch of people behind him, right? So I was like just grabbing people out the thing and basically whether they whether whether they were good people to be in his circle or not, I'm just just those circles my kids. And that was that was a mistake of my own. It was something that I wanted from for sure, right? You know what I'm saying? Just because the bitch around grinning her teeth, girl, grow, grow. Like them is usually the first ones to be the one doing. But that's my thing. Like, do what you're gonna do over there. Yeah, don't do it. Don't come. Then you in my house with my kids, eat my food. Like, then you wonder why you got your ass beat, bitch, and I will beat it again. No, yeah. That's one of them. Every time I see you, I will beat your ass on site, and only because not even let's take him out of it. Let's just talk to you like your character as a person. Yeah, how the fuck is you sit up in another woman's face doing that and think shit is you know what I'm saying? A woman who is always there to support it right now. Exactly, bitch. Buying them stupid ass candles, fucking itchy ass lotions, like the fuck going to your house, helping you, and like, I'm not even gonna indulge because I'm just not that type of person. But no, yeah, I was like there. You know what's so funny is her family from out of state, they were like they were so upset because I got physical, which I understand. I will ride her mind as well. And me and her aunt was having a conversation, and I was like, you know, where were you at when she was homeless? Like, you're tapping in because she got her ass beat. But where were you at when she did not work asleep? Exactly. She was sleeping here. She called me. The aunt called me immediately. She got straight off face with me at all of the and she was like, Who are you? And I was and I explained to her the role that I was playing, currently playing, and and her life, and you know how she was around my family. And this aunt was like, Girl, I am so sorry. That's exactly what they said. Then they started sending me screenshots from their group video, telling me she looked like Seely from the color purple. You tell Fuffett'll beat me. When I say that validated shit so much for me, I was like, No, yeah, I'm gonna stalk a mug on your ass every time I see you. Your own aunt who called me choppered up with a big old AK upside her head, like, oh yeah, my mom lady trained. I got your ass. And I was like, Come on, come on. I have one of those as well. And did you want to know why? That she got her hands pumped in. Oh, okay, let me tell you. Let me tell you, let me tell you the truth. No, let me tell you the truth. She over there, like, I don't know what happened. She was over there, she was telling her family, and like, look, what's her cousin's heart? Because her cousin was like very chilly, like very, she didn't even care. She's like, I don't care, she was wrong, we shouldn't put your hands on it. Um, and I went back through my text messages all the way when I was pregnant with her daughter. And uh I had a gender reveal, and she was actually the photographer at my gender reveal. So when I had started posting stuff about us planning it, she reached out to me directly and was like, hey, I want to give y'all this package, my gender rebuild, baby chaler, whatever package. And that's what even initiated that that calibration. I was like, oh man, we can't you know what I'm saying? Like maybe I'll be overlooking you for other wrong reasons or whatever. Yeah, so I showed her family that, and I was like, I never reached out to her, I never reached for a bigger. She can't she stepped to me into my circle every single time. And the cousin was like, I'm sorry. She was like, it is nothing I'm talking about. Like, I'm just I'm sorry. Like she's dirty, like you can't, you cannot justify that. Absolutely. You know what I'm saying? If it's a person on the planet that can something wrong with them up top, like it. Like, what is wrong with you? For sure. For sure. That's that's the word of the day. But yeah. Yeah. So yeah, I don't know. Yeah, so I I definitely think um I think both sides of the spectrum it could be right. I don't mean it. Hey girl, you could really have 10 ass. And it's not even like it's not even like to be naive to the fact that's of something going on, right? Yeah. I just don't want, like I said, I just don't want nobody else to control my narrative. You know what I'm saying? Because I I don't know. I don't because my thing is nine times out of ten, if you sleep with a married man, you know we're married. Nine times out of ten, now I don't know it's some sneaky, sleek, slippery, slidey motherfuckers out here that be hot in their life, right? So you already know he's married. So what the fuck are we even talking about? Right. You know what I'm saying? Like, what what what I'm gonna say? I'm his wife, bitch, I thought you know what I'm saying? Great, he posts you all the time. I be liking the picture, you know what I'm saying? Type shit. Like, you know what I'm saying? So what what are we doing? What are the conversations for? And this this this this is all what limit does a person like that have? I'm not gonna say bitch. I was gonna say bitch, but I'm not going to rag on things to them because guys do it too. Guys do it, and it doesn't even work. Imagine a nigga coming to another nigga as a man. Oh no, it happens. It happens, it happens. This this hey, this our woman, it's supposed to have somewhere. So funny, so funny. I'm sweet the story in this y'all. I was going through a breakout. I thought I was gonna slide one night, right? I wake up with someone's like this recording me while I'm talking about she laying here with me right now. I knocked the phone out. I was like, what the fuck are you doing? I was like, what the fuck are you doing? Yeah, because you're gonna have to tell that you know you're messing with me now that you're messing with me now. And I was like, No, just delete that. Oh no, it was on FaceTime. Give me my phone, give me my phone, and you live with I had just felt like you have no limit. Like you have no limit, and you see girls, especially famous girls, or not famous girls, it happens with famous guys, like the groupies are waiting to their sleeves, they get the little pictures, like what limit do you have? Like, is there a limit? It's probably not a limit. It's probably not a limit. Probably not. Can you want to go? I this is my thing. If we're getting ready in the bathroom and I see you pick up your phone, and you know, and we're some not sneaky but quiet shit, and I like sticking figures in or just you know what I'm saying, do something like that. That's cool, but record them wrong sleeping and you dirty, freaking dumb negative assembly. Know your role, know your role, know your place, and don't let your jealousy motion take over. Okay, but the thing is they be knowing they role, right? But they want a new position. Jealous the problem and and and and anger and you trying to ruin what I got going on, you got a team player. But don't say you're not a team player. But this is the thing though, like sometimes they be you you are infatuated with the idea of what I have, right? Because if you were to be with my man today, like if we divorce get another person, right? He he's not gonna, it's not gonna be the same person at all, you know what I'm saying? Like, he's not gonna love you the way he loved me. That's what you're affectuated with. You know what I'm saying? But you not meet, exactly. So naturally, he's not gonna treat you the same. Exactly. Rather be better or worse, it's not gonna be the same. It's not gonna be what you think is going to be exactly, and that's what it is. Like, dang, I want somebody to do this and this and this for me. Now he gets over there, now he's not doing none of that. Now you talk about you can have a bag, no bitch, and you think it's broke. No, bitch. You wanted them, you think you people talk about now. He dreamt, and now he wanna do this, and now he wanna do that, and it's like and whoop D do. And if he got the same with you, then whoop D Wop D do. Just the same, like the person recording you trying to blow your shit up, right? Nigga, you don't know. I could be a whole basket case. You don't know what this nigga deal with. Hello on a on a on a 100% basis. We just over here for fun. That's why it's fun. That's why you know what I'm saying? There's no responsibility over here, there's no bills to be paid, there's no decisions to be made. This is just fun. But you think it's gonna be fun all the time. Forever, forever, forever. No, it's not forever. You like bitches' bills? Yes, bitches' bills, and we gotta pay them. Because guess what? When I come up here, it's just me. But if you want to be with me 100% of the time, guess what? I got five little niggas coming with me. So now you like, wait a minute. Yeah, wait, you're a mom, you're an ass? Yes, yes, yes, yes, and if you don't pass that first 24 hours and argue with my kids, it never steps between you. That's what I'm saying. So you think shit is great, but it's not, it's it's great for us, it worked for us, you know what I'm saying? Like, DTM know how to handle my voice. Them niggas is basket case, all of them, yeah, yeah, in their own way, you know what I'm saying? Or follow them with our little some, you know, yeah, and then they friends, but BTM has a way with them, yeah, that another man would never you know what I'm saying. Jesus, so you think she's sweet till I come over here and motherfucker 2030 shred and kicked in the door. Oh my god, I'm teaching her. It's like, bro, you know, reason that's my mama, dick. That's her son. Like we know, that's my mama.

unknown 27:59

Fuck you, nigga.

SPEAKER_01 28:00

Like now you're looking at me like it's your son. I'm looking at you like no, you thought she was sweet. No, yeah, this is what you said you wanted, right? Or but did you, or but did you, or like, you know what? You go back over there. Well, thank you. I was gonna but it'd be the same though. Like, if he got a girl, like, even though I think it's more accepting when the man moves on than a woman because well, we have boys because the boys can't date a daddy, yeah. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, or they're now the man in charge. Yeah, but I do think another woman coming to his life will still have to deal with the nutty boy, you know what I'm saying? Like, I don't know, but I just feel like they just be thinking shit sweet and then don't like this just you know what I'm saying? It's a lot of responsibility over here, my guy. Even past them at McCon, uh, y'all know for the last six months. I have been testing other hey, say you doing that. And y'all is not worthy of any of my kids, bro. At all, nobody, nobody ever. I don't care if you see me with them, if they sat on our panel, is y'all see me outside with them. No. How about I don't even got kids no more. How about that? How about that? They at home, they at the crib, but you never fucking see them because I went through this. I uh I was hanging out with a with a friend, with a constituent. All right, all right, constituent, all right, and they we were like, we were recovering. It was like uh a Sunday or whatever. This is right before uh we started playing. And we were, you know, cuddles, cuddles, cuddles, and then my baby, who's three, and he is also on the search room, uh, he walks up to me and he tries to get up on me, you know, like trying to, he's trying to cuddle with me. So I'm trying to make room, but the friend wouldn't like move. Like it's not that he wouldn't move. He didn't even make room for COVID. And this probably sounds so stupid, but it pissed me off to the point where like I threw my body like bitch, move. No, bitch, I don't care if you're sleeping. You feel this, look, you hear it. Like, I have side kids, right? So you hear the kids running and playing, you feel you felt when he ran up to me and jumped me in my body, you felt that. So just you know, scoot over just a little bit and make just a little, just try, you even gotta move for real. But just acknowledge the fact that he is trying to interact with me and trying to interact with him at this point. And when when the person failed, you know, I got up and yeah, me and Kobe went to the other room. And of course, you know, I didn't say anything, I didn't make a big fuss about it. But after that person left, they shot me with the uh, hey, you wanna hang out? And I was like, No, I don't think crap. And then and they left it, and they was like they left the uh the text back and they was like, Well, what happened? You know, what did I do? And I was like, you know, my spell was trying to cuddle with me, and you ain't you ain't moved. And he was like, Oh, I'm sorry. And I was like, it's supposed to, it's okay, it's close. You like not? No, it's fine. You don't have to be sorry, you don't have to be sorry because I'm sure there was a space where you were trying to interact with your kid, and whoever you were laying next to didn't make you feel comfortable to embrace your child. I'm so sorry to happen to you, but you will never be up here again because this is not how we act on it. Like no when you feel a kid trying to you open up your arms, do you say, Come here, little buddy? Don't ever little buddy, my big hey, come here, white boy Carl. White boy Carl. Listen, yeah, and now that he's the biggest, right? And he like he's my biggest for sure. Theoretically, and like theoretically and literally, he is the biggest. And no, if you cannot make space for one, you need to make space for anything. And you can't tell me you care about me or you want to lay up with me and you cannot make a space for my shit. So yeah, like, yeah, yeah. And this is like y'all suck ass damn to and I don't care how much I don't like they daddy. Y'all niggas will never be around. I will be around the daddy again before y'all be around them, okay? I don't know how much series. I don't care. I swear to god, I can't, but the nigga get the best foot rubbings, and he like he liked cuddling with his kids. Imagine that. Imagine fucking that. I'm talking about the rooms. Yeah, he ain't gotta go through all that.

unknown 32:23

I'm talking about the rooms too.

SPEAKER_01 32:24

Oh, okay. Because the carters dad, he didn't make it easy for me like that, right? Like he wanted to, he was worse than dog a good dad now. Yeah, but dog wasn't a good dad when they was. I ain't gonna say he wasn't a good dad, he was just not. I don't think he was just a flip for tolerance, right? Like, he is a man who needs a woman, and he will tell anybody that he feels like the world is out of beneath through the like that that testament on me, though. He was in that one house of the time. So when our kids were smaller, he told like you left, you left the household, you left the situation, so you bear the burden of all of that. Yeah, and I didn't agree with it there, but I see I still don't agree with it, but I see it, you know what I'm saying? Like, I I I would be like, okay. I mean, but at the end of the day, he broke the nigga heart, he acted like a bitch. That's it. That's it. That's it. Because I because he interacted with other kids just fine. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know what I'm saying? So it was like his punishment to you was, oh, I'm not gonna watch him. Like, bitch, these your kids. Yeah, you gotta explain it in one day why you weren't there, but then he would turn around and you blessed. You blessed me. Exactly. Because you heard this pick. Oh, I'm sorry, you broke my heart, you did this to me. And that was cool, you know. I after after I I naturally moved on and started to evolve and started to grow, I was able to identify him. And the whole time it was never me, it was never even none. So, you know, yeah, white ass. Yeah, white ass. But he is he is a great dad, he was a great dad, shape partner, but great for that. I said that too. Like, he had a really good dad, he's just not the best as a as a person for you. Yeah, because he might be for somebody else. Oh, yeah, for sure. We still are right, like, yeah, it's just not a line, you know what I'm saying? But the dad shit only threw that. And like I said, the next hyperchanging on great look brought my feet was killing you the other day. And I was dropping the babies on, you so much. I have my uh shoes, I have my chimp shoes on, he was so much, and I was like, My feet are so bad. Let me rub your feet. You wanna let me go home? Like, dog, what yeah, you can rub my feet and smoke up. Hey, rubber head too. I don't know if we're gonna let you you a bit down, you at but it was so cool, I was like, you know, let me go home. Okay, no, yeah, because that was six months later, like I don't how did I fuck? But no, no, no, yeah. And it was really cool, and I just was like, damn, that's really fucking cool. Like, I just I I could say openly that I just appreciate him as a hope. Damn, what a what a breast of fresh air. Because for the last six months, it's been difficult. And I was like, damn, is it me? And then when he got hold of me, started helping with the kids and started to fill that void. I was like, Ha, this is what I'm used to. That's what it is. Like, I'm just used to this. This I always say he got me spoiled in that with the kids and in that aspect. And it's like, am I spoiled or is that a proper standard? No, that's what's how it's supposed to go, and that is awesome. And I get away that's my attitude still please, still with boundaries, like right. Like now I'm learning like healthy boundaries, you know, like healthy limitations, and I learned that I the two can be super triggering, and some of the things that I say and how I say it, I guess I talk with a certain tone that could just a regular person off. Sorry, I don't like sis, he's not a kid. He actually is a six motherfucking kid. I'm like, Yep, see that, see that? Just fine, just fine. Yeah, bring it in. So I had seen something that said discernment is also knowing when you are off and you need to change it. Yeah. And when I seen that, I was like, okay, right. It ain't just calling somebody else out and shit. It's also like, damn, we knowing when it's you who the shit is is is is your shit right now. Say like, oh, I have no problem. I was seeing on the problem. All right, and you have to call me what's the book here off the problem child. What's his name? Junior. Or just call me Junior. Wait, I'm beat it. I forgot to remember off problem child too. It was a girl, but I can't remember her name. I just remember Junior. Hell yeah. And he does not like a problem child name, though. I'm sorry, y'all. Uh sorry. Okay, go ahead. I'm sorry. All right. So our next segment is called Cheers. Can we hurry, D TM? Can we bring? Step into the group chat. Step into the group chat. That's our male perspective. Hello, D TM. My brother.

unknown 37:13

What up, world?

SPEAKER_02 37:17

Oh, oh. What up, though? You know who it is, your boy Code D T M AKA Pure Motivation. I am Mr. Energy. Everybody loves me. I don't have no enemy. This podcast is there now, so you gotta respect it. You never get up on them because they've never acted. If you know them, you know that they're more than a savage who loves living life and learns to have it. So it concludes so it's no confusion. If you see somebody ruler than them, it's an evolution.

SPEAKER_01 37:40

I ain't like something y'all know it's actually so sweet. Oh my god. So I was like, okay, all right. Y'all, I'm coming with one of those. She said every scary. But all right, all right, all right. So we are asking the group check, does misery truly love company? And how do we tell if you're the one visiting? Oh, we're gonna let TCM take up on this one.

SPEAKER_02 38:07

Yes, misery definitely loves company, success also loves company. So it's really your perspective on how you're looking at life, what you're trying to do, what you find interesting. So whichever one you find interesting, let you know where you're at. If you find yourself around the misery, you're the miserable person. If you find yourself around success, let me know where you are.

SPEAKER_01 38:35

So the ADHD girl is just like he didn't even answer the question. But he did, he did, he did. He is basically saying, I guess. It does. And it is the perception of the person. That makes one live little world.

SPEAKER_02 38:57

Well, perception and the perspective on how you see yourself. Sometimes you hold yourself back from getting better and doing better because you may not feel like you deserve better. So you sabotage yourself, you know what I'm saying? Right next level.

unknown 39:13

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 39:16

That nigga. Oh god, all this girl talking, cocktails just turned into uh uh therapy one on one. No, that's what we this is why we are so well balanced because we're gonna have to keep using trying to be. I do think misery loves company, and I do think it shows his hand in jealousy. Because you if you got somebody in your life and they never can find happiness in your success, that's a miserable motherfucker, and they want you to be miserable too. Those are the people that we outgrow. You know what I'm saying? Because you like they're like, so you just gonna go to work every day? We ain't never gonna drink no more. Like, bitch, we not kill no more. No, we can't just get drunk every day. We gotta go to work, we gotta take care of our family, we gotta grow up. You know what I'm saying? No, I'm just saying, like as you grow, you should grow, right? Right, and then what happens is when you grow and the people around you not growing, then what they're gonna try to do is pull you back down, like the crap in the barrel mentality, where they like, I want to see you doing good, but not better than me. Some people don't even want to see you doing as good as them. You know what I'm saying? Like, so them the kind of people that are miserable and they do want your company, yeah, but you gotta check yourself, right? That's why I say how you know basically because why are we even entertaining these people? So, how do you know if you're busy?

SPEAKER_02 40:42

I'll answer that. Let me ask that real quick. Yeah, um the way you can tell is by listening to the conversation that you have now together, right? If your conversation only speaks of the past, then you're not going to stay there. But the more you live in the past, the more you'll regret um your future because you'll never get there. You know, fans are like if our conversation is, oh man, you remember that time when you didn't think, oh man, you remember like we outgrown all that now. Yeah, yeah. Now we either here or in the future. If you can't talk about the now or the future, then that's just meditation I need to go. I ain't making a plan to add anything. I'm about to change the name of the market if I'm sitting over there right now, my notes and all that.

SPEAKER_01 41:35

You know, for this show? Yeah, oh we will listen. We will have we can have another show.

SPEAKER_02 41:46

No, no, no, you know I do uploads and all that. Gotta add notes and all that.

SPEAKER_01 41:51

No, how about I don't even know what the title of the show is. Okay, we can talk about that later. Sorry. So here she goes on her side quest. Sorry, sorry, I know I'm losing this. But yeah, I do I do think that we have to be careful of the people that we allow to surround us, right? Absolutely. Because if I if I'm calling like, oh man, I just did, you know, see why like you know what I'm saying? Like energy level with from seven when you answer the phone to hey, to oh, okay. Oh yeah, that's why I was like, it never would have hurt for me. I'm like, you know, wait away from absolutely or like the people that always remind you of a bad place you were in. You know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, you know, like girl, can he still be cheating? Or girl, remember we used to be cheating? Like, bitch, why would that's that's the only thing we could talk about? I don't want to talk about that. I don't want to talk about that. Like, you know what I'm saying? That is the most prominent memory in your head. Just shut up. It's okay to just shut up. It is okay to shut up, but it's like but it's like if you care about me and you're my friend, why are you trying to take me back to that direction? Yeah, yeah. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, or like, girl, maybe we used to be beating up girls at the like bro, we was bad. We were mentally unstable out here beating people up. Why why do why do we want to bitch because people get us lost? But why do you want to talk about that? Why do you want to be reminded of that? I think like brother said, when you have people who and I think it's sometimes people reach their feet, yeah, and they don't even realize it, right? Like for us, we're always evolving. So there is no right, but we can remember a really great time, but we'd have had a thousand more great times with that. Exactly. So for us reminiscing on a particular time is not us like totally being focused on it, right? So I think the college way is just when you hit your feet and like let's say when we was out there being just that was like the best time of your life. And you ain't felt that happy and fulfilled and Alive since then, you know, like which you've been which is insane. It's like 30 years ago. Okay, and you you'd have had three more kids, I'd have had four more kids, and like there should have been so many things that have fulfilled us since. And possibly you've gotten fulfilled systems. I have gotten fulfilled systems, but that person is just like, oh, that was that was the climax, y'all. It's like built just the misery of the company. And there you go. And that is and that is how you decide for it. Like, no, thank you. No, thank you.

SPEAKER_02 44:32

Are you done with us? No, I'm listening. Okay, I'm with y'all.

SPEAKER_01 44:38

Tap, tap, tap, tap tap. Yeah, so for me, I I have to agree with y'all. Like, I definitely feel like misery loves company. And I feel like, how do you know when your visitor is what I feel like a a genuinely person who has only experienced misery and who is not miserable, you feel different. You know that that agonizing feeling of misery just lingering around you. You know what I'm saying? That's that's how you're gonna be working for misery. Because none of us are exempt from anything in this life, right? So she's felt misery, you feel misery, I felt misery in me for now. Does that make us miserable people? No, it doesn't. No, not a bask in it. Like nobody wants to stay there. Exactly. This is stupid. So when you start to when this radiation is getting on me, and I'm I'm starting to identify what it is, it's up to me to say, Am I a lizard? Or or am I the company or am I the lizard? Right. You know what I'm saying? And once you decipher that, I feel like we can navigate that space a lot more. You know, a gene, you know what I'm saying? And stay away from like Debbie Dollars, bro. Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, I can't, if every time you talk to somebody, they only talking about sad shit. Yeah, I I don't I've never talked to you. Yeah, like every like how was your day, girl? Waterbill do my waterbill. I don't got no food. My kids bad, my grandkids, they don't be coming up, like so nothing good happened. Yeah, the sun out. The sun is out. You know what I'm saying? You woke up this morning, you know what I'm saying? Like a bunch to be find something to be grateful for, like, or like you know, uh, you'd be like, oh, I just wrote a book. Oh yeah, my cousin don't have wrote a book. Like, bitch. Just say you want to write a book.

unknown 46:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 46:34

What are you gonna do with that? Who gonna read that? You guys like 1500 people have read my book so far. Actually, actually, I only knew 230 of them. I've been saying just like stuff like that. I know. Um you know what is so funny is uh just a piggyback on being grateful. Um, I was standing in the line for the uh the B and B kiosk, and the lady in front of me, she was we were we were discussing uh how like the price of living uh because we were standing in the grocery store of what we were just at the chaos. So we were she was saying she got a fixed same raise, and she's but she she has to see it. And I was like, because that's because at the beginning of the year when the cost of living went up, they had already knew what companies were projected to do what, and like we all got real analytical or whatever. And uh I you know I was just telling her like the what they do is from 1960, from when minimum wage was 15 cent or whatever, like the economy has grown and everything else has grown, but we are still so much so making and spending and and living off the same wage in the sense like yeah, now it's fifteen dollars an hour, but rent is also fifteen hundred dollars. So it all calculates, I was saying. So we were talking about that, and um she wants to walk away from me. You know, she did her thing at the kiosk, and she went to walk away from me, and she turned around, she was like, tell me something positive. She's like, I don't want to walk away from you on such a dark and and heavy tell me something five. Let's end this conversation on a five-shot note. And I looked at her and I was like, Well, I'm an entrepreneur, um I own a cleaner. This is in our second quarter, and we're doing better numbers than we did in our first year, but we've grown 500%, and our practice have grown 500% since we started. And even as I'm like running that down term, like I'm gonna tell stress out, but shit is really fucking okay. Right. I was like, damn. And I just she must have seen it in my face, okay. She shut it up. Wait, wait, she must have seen it. Yeah, that's a vibe. You can't fight the vibe. Um, but she must have seen it in my face that just me running down all that was like lighting me up because she smiled back at me and she was like, That's all I needed. And but that wasn't enough for her. She went down, it was like four people on the line, and she asked every single person, and everybody had something so positive to share. And I was like, That's what the world needs. Need more of that. The world needs more of positivity. Yes, holy positivity, yes. Hey, thank you. Thank you. Because what that is it, so yes, and they didn't feel listening. Thank you because that changed my respect about it. And you know what it is? The the horrible part is negativity spreads so much faster than positivity. It's him saying all the time, like he could make a motivational video and like one person will like it and one person will share it. But if he posts some bullshit, next thing you know, that shit gonna viral. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Like, I don't that I think that's just like the way, like, but we it's up to us to make the change. Yeah, you know what they say, like be the change you want to see. Yes. So we gotta stop feeding into stuff, you know what I'm saying? Otherwise, it's gonna stay the same. So we you know, we gotta be the change we want to see. First of all, thanks.

SPEAKER_02 50:00

I always say be careful of the label that you allow giving to yourself, right? Okay, so you hear misery or miserable, the statement I'm miserable, is more powerful because you just acknowledge that it gave it life. You know what I'm saying? So if you speak truth and life over your situations, you'll see a different perspective.

SPEAKER_01 50:22

Like affirmation, like positive idea. You know what they say they want that call is what you answer to. Right. Hey, now that's something that's why I was getting on our youngest son because the the Yans was over there, and they would kept calling him baby school. Who baby school? I don't know, some ghetto shit. And I said, Dog, stop, stop answering that. I don't know, but I ain't like it. And I told that just aggravated me so bad because what does that mean? I told him I said, Dog, his name is Taz. So you can uh Nick War you cannot talk to him, and I tell him to stop answering that, don't answer to that. They all just said, Look at me. I'm about to text what would that mean? You could be like, Okay, so yeah. No, because why can't dad is the same price? I told that I can't even remember. I was fussing him, I was fussing, and I turned around and I looked down at him, and he was just pouting and I was like, straighten up, please. Yeah, he was just pouting and whipping, and I was like, I ain't putting my hands on you. That'd be the thing. That and in my brain, I should just stop you. Yeah, then you could cry. Then you could cry. We gotta stop thinking. We gotta stop thinking like that. I swear to God. That was my no, yeah. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. This you look battered over there. Relax. We need to be stopped. We need to be stopped. I don't know who's gonna do it, but I got you. You got me? Period. Okay, all right. And that was good, that was really good. Now we got last call. Alrighty. I'm never I'm never ready to end with uh she told me already. So last call is wait, come back. Damn, you look so old. No, last call who the call is last call is when Blaze gives up gives us a word, and we have to say the first word that comes to mind. Emotionally intelligent, experience, like hey, and that was last call, y'all. That's it. We keep going.

SPEAKER_02 52:40

No call. Keep calling me.

SPEAKER_01 52:44

And no, that was that was a great last call, y'all. Um, and I think that speaks a lot to our episode. Like, let's let's hone in on being emotionally intelligent, let's hone in on being in that positive experience, and let's let's grab life by the point, but let's hold in on living life in the best way possible. Yeah, and it is Pride Month. So this will be our first episode of Pride Month. Oh my god! So I was on, I don't know, something just when I was on social media the other day, I just thought about love who you want to love, yeah. Be who you want to be and keep people out your bedroom in your pins. Don't like literally, no, I and I say that to say like no, I love it. I love it. Don't it don't matter what what people got going on, you know what I'm saying? Like let people be who they are, yeah. You know what I'm saying? Love who they want to love and be who they want to be because what what you eat don't make me shit at all. So why you so concerned? What the fuck I got going on? Just be you, just be for whatever whatever that looks like to you. And the reason why I encourage people to be who they are is because it's so many people losing their lives. You know, they taking their own lives because they can't be who they are. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Don't let your mama, your daddy, your grandma, your pastor, don't let nobody stop you from being you. Yeah, whatever that looks like, whatever that looked like, whatever that looks like. You know what I'm saying? Whatever that looked like to you, be who you are. Yeah, and listen to the lobbies.

unknown 54:17

I love that.

SPEAKER_01 54:17

And and listen to the lobby. I'm gonna shoot, I'm gonna shoot them every time. Okay, anytime, anytime. Yeah, for sure, for sure. And then tell them how they listen to us. Y'all can find us wherever y'all listen to y'all podcasts at it. I tell I kick some beer. Um Apple, Apple, just record Apple Podcasts, uh, Android Podcast.

SPEAKER_03 54:43

You know, I don't know if you can see it.

SPEAKER_01 54:46

YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, wherever you listen to your podcast at, that's where you can find us. And if you can't find us there, then DM us on Instagram at Cocktails and Girl Talk. Hey.kd. You can follow Blaze at Hustlefire X. Keep going. The X acts as an and, but just think of it like that. Aha, hustle, hustlefire. Hustlefire X keep going. Yeah, okay. I'm gonna remember next week. I don't have to. I swear I follow her, and we talk to each other on Instagram all next time today. I'm just saying, all right, this has been another episode. Thank you for listening. See you next week.