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SPEAKER_03 1:07

I'm just a D girl from round away with a whole lot of shit to say. It's your girl, K D.

SPEAKER_04 1:11

It's your hearsless with the monsters. It's Kiki.

SPEAKER_02 1:14

What up, though? You know who it is. Your boy Coach D T M A K A Pure Motivation. I am Mr. Energy. Everybody loves me. I don't have one in me. Our podcast is here now, so you gotta respect it. You never get off on us because we never accident. If you know me, then you know that I'm more than a savage who loves living life and is allergic to average. So we're in conclusion, so it's no confusion. If you see somebody really than us, it's an illusion.

SPEAKER_03 1:35

What up, do what up, what up, though? What up?

SPEAKER_05 1:38

What up, though? What up? What up, though? That's OD Treaty.

SPEAKER_02 1:41

Listen, listen, welcome. It's only for Dunlop to another episode of Relationship Reality Podcast where you get your daily dose up.

SPEAKER_03 1:50

Relationships and reality. Talk about it. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:55

Uh-huh. Listen, man. It's a beautiful day, man. We in this thing. It definitely is a beautiful day. You know what I'm saying? God giving us some some good weather. You know it's good because my boy Jamie got on shorts and he got the toes out. I'm loving it. No, that's okay. Let's go. You know what I'm saying? Say it. So it's on and five. Listen, Kiki.

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Yes.

SPEAKER_02 2:15

We missed you around this thing, man.

SPEAKER_03 2:18

Wait, like 17 years.

SPEAKER_02 2:19

You know what I'm saying? We had to, you know, we had to bring in like 30 people to try to fill your seats just for two episodes.

SPEAKER_03 2:26

And it didn't work. Everybody like where Kiki at?

SPEAKER_04 2:28

I was working hard. That's just been working on it. We about to kids to be playing sports. We're about to be on locations.

SPEAKER_02 2:38

Where you at this week? We're gonna be recording right where you at.

SPEAKER_03 2:41

We're about to be recording at the UAW hall. Right. No visual, no vision. We're gonna respect people's privacy.

SPEAKER_02 2:45

Yeah, no, we probably won't. We uh paparazzi out here. We forgot. Look, we need autographs and anything.

SPEAKER_03 2:52

Well, you know, our girl is like a real, like, you know.

SPEAKER_04 2:55

I forgot to tell y'all. So, you know, I took a four-hour class, a UAW class the other day. So it was at another local. It made our local look like trash. I said they had like a podcast studio. Like, I'm gonna show you how the picture. Oh, I saw the picture. I was like, first, I was like, what the fuck she doing?

SPEAKER_03 3:15

We wasn't there, what she doing with a mic in front of me. She wasn't leaving us.

SPEAKER_02 3:22

Um, she's like doing all that shit over here. She's like, I'm I'm Kiki Ruffin.

SPEAKER_03 3:28

I'm I'm hell maving that was I was too outdone.

SPEAKER_04 3:32

I said, This is beautiful. They had like a makeup room. I'm like, but this is the union hall still. They had like it was huge.

SPEAKER_03 3:39

You know what? This girl I followed got married there.

SPEAKER_04 3:42

Yeah, it's nice.

SPEAKER_02 3:44

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_04 3:45

This house is super nice, it's actually really nice, like nothing like ours. We got one auditorium and a few rooms in the back.

SPEAKER_03 3:58

And he kept walking.

SPEAKER_04 4:00

I said, This is still the same building. They're like, Yeah, this is still local. She's like, We ain't go outside. I was in awe, it was cute, and it threw me off with the whole podcast, like studio, like it was like a whole studio.

SPEAKER_03 4:15

Like, well, now that you're on the electric committee, let's elect a better union hall.

SPEAKER_04 4:20

Well, we can't make it big, they we're not gonna make it bigger. We would have to like tear it out, add to it.

SPEAKER_03 4:26

Can we rebuild this motherfucker, please?

SPEAKER_04 4:28

Yeah, well, they call us big bang seven for a reason because we got like a couple million over there, yeah. We got the money in our local, so I mean y'all can do that. Exactly.

SPEAKER_03 4:39

So that's true, true.

SPEAKER_04 4:40

They call us big bang seven for a reason.

SPEAKER_03 4:42

That means y'all allocating y'all funds appropriately, right? They over there playing Legos, y'all over here building empires. Say it be like you know, I'm sorry, not to cut you off, but it reminds you of like how like more wealthy people dress like regular, you know what I'm saying? Just like Levi's a t-shirt, you know what I'm saying? Some uh Garanimals or something, you know, where people that don't have as much money got on ten thousand dollars worth of clothes and don't got ten thousand dollars in their bank account. It's kind of the same thing, like their stuff looks better, but they don't have the financial freedom as you guys do.

SPEAKER_04 5:19

We focus more on education though. Like, I take a lot of classes for free, like you know, go out of town. I might I'm about to go to Black Lake for a week, which is like two hours away. Yeah, yes, next month.

SPEAKER_03 5:32

But I mean, yes, I know, I know you like it.

SPEAKER_04 5:37

I'm trying to get all the education I can, baby. I'll pay for it.

SPEAKER_03 5:40

I'm gonna support your education, but you know, June is a busy month for us.

SPEAKER_02 5:43

I know if the lake's actually black, that's what I want to know.

SPEAKER_03 5:46

We're gonna find out because we're going to say for a week, take my laptop. I'm working, I'm working from somebody home.

SPEAKER_05 5:52

I'm working from the black lake.

SPEAKER_04 5:53

It's through the week, though. It's not like on the weekend either.

SPEAKER_03 5:55

I said I'm working from somebody home. It's gonna be your home.

SPEAKER_04 5:59

Sunday, I come home Friday.

SPEAKER_02 6:00

I'm delivering from Black Lake. I'm driving through the through the lake, man. All right, so I got a question for y'all before we get into the the sent-in question. Okay, so I just want to see if y'all agree with this at all. So I was doing my studying, right? I was doing my studying the other day, and I came across something that I found, you know, kind of interesting, right? And I was like, man, this is kind of interesting and dope at the same time. Oh so the guy said the guy said to a lot of people, I might not look like a good friend. Right? And he was like, this the same way at the same time. I'm definitely clipping that. Definitely clipping that. Um but he said to a lot of people, I might not look like a best a great friend. And he said, the reason being is because to a lot of people, I am not a great friend. He said it takes a lot to be my friend, and it takes a lot for me to be your friend. And the reason being is because if you are my friend, then that cuts out some people who you might want to also be friends with because they have to connect with the vision that I see for myself and you see for yourself. And if I see something different, I can no longer be friends with you because you don't want the best for you, and you're not even paying us any attention.

SPEAKER_05 7:37

And I was listening to that, that's strong, and I was like, ah, kind of I like that.

SPEAKER_02 7:41

And I that's probably it kind of it kind of speaks to the the sentiment that I had, and I could just didn't put it in words, yeah. And I was like, I get that, you know what I'm saying? And I get it to a degree where I've actually seen it be exercised, you know what I'm saying, just amongst this group right here. Whereas not necessarily we not gonna be friends anymore, but we're gonna make this known that that's not something that they can't you can't bring this person around. That's right. Yeah, so I was thinking about that. I was like, I agree with that 100%, and then it makes me nervous, right? Where like we got a son that will bring all his quote unquote friends to the house. So because he hasn't learned that that everybody I got a homie that I still to this day don't know where he lives, never been there. Yeah, but I respect it. Yeah, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 8:38

I mean, you gotta think about like black the same way. Yeah, like to me, black is a phenomenal friend to anybody who is in his circle. Yeah, well, he just a phenomenal person, period. But everybody don't know where he lives. Yeah, I would say you you know where he lives, yeah, Fed know where he lives. Oh, you thought I was gonna keep going? Oh, that was it. That's about it. No, that's it. I know where he lives, but I can't get there.

SPEAKER_02 9:04

Like he takes like so, like, and even with that, right? How you feeling if I'm like, okay, Kiki knows where I live, we good. But then Kiki starts bringing other people that I'm not might not know or might not, you know what I'm saying? They haven't been through, they haven't been vetted yet.

SPEAKER_05 9:25

Right.

SPEAKER_02 9:25

And I'm just sitting here looking. So at that point, are you like, well, shoot, maybe Kiki should know where I live. But it's too late. I'm finna mad. Yeah, but I'm finna. So I get I get where my man was going a thousand percent. I was like, uh, he just put what I was thinking and feeling into words. So y'all agree with that?

SPEAKER_05 9:43

Oh, yeah. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 9:44

Y'all agree with it in a way where you can actually like say it to the person, like, look, I I feel like we've been friends for a long time. Yeah, over a bunch of years. Let me keep telling our age. Yeah, we've been friends for a whole bunch of years. But in this day and age, you can kind of see the friendships growing because there's no back behind the scenes, like everything is in the forefront, right? So, do you think that is something that should be stated? Like, yo, this kind of getting closer. I won't let you know before we get before we go any further in this friendship.

SPEAKER_03 10:20

That sounds so weird. Like, it looks like we're in a relationship. No, we are. You know what? Because I do feel like that because that's why people always be like, Oh, but if I was Kiki, it'd be fine, or if I was Keisha, it'd be fine. Yeah, yeah. You're right, but you're not, so let's not even go there. You know what I'm saying? Because you can't compete when you don't compare. Yeah, you know what I mean, and I do feel like I agree with him as far as like you gotta protect your peace out by all means. That can be a friend, that's cool over there, but eventually the dead weight gonna kill itself off, exactly. Yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying? As we've learned, but exactly because what happens because it's the thing, yeah. She Kiki's gonna always be there, but that's the thing.

SPEAKER_02 10:57

Sometimes the dead weight can confuse you. Yeah, if you let it be around too long, it can confuse you, or you die, it'll become dangerous for you. You know what I'm saying? A hindrance to your growth and all type of stuff, right? It becomes cancerous, that's the word we'll use. And if you know if you be like, as a friend, you like, I know that's gonna die off in a minute. Sometimes you gotta you gotta be the radiation, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 11:23

I mean, that's true, but sometimes your presence is the radiation, not even on purpose, right? Yeah, because we'll redacted too. You you coming, I'm coming. I don't care about you being here, but my presence bothers you so much. I was I was chemo and didn't even know it, right? You know what I'm saying? It kind of got to the point, like, well, if she's gonna come, like she never I don't think she ever said it out of her mouth, because that'd have been dumb. But to think like eventually she's not gonna come, that's crazy. Why wouldn't I? I'm gonna beat you here, miss on time, you know what I'm saying? But but eventually she she stopped coming around on her own. That wasn't nothing that nobody made her do, yeah, right. She just got in her feelings and didn't want to come around no more. Yeah, because every time you see me, you get pissed. That's weird. You did something to me, yeah. You know what I mean? So I that's why I say dead weight kill they self off.

SPEAKER_05 12:09

It usually does, it usually does.

SPEAKER_03 12:11

My my ex-homegirl was the same way, like she was coming around, and Kiki Presence just pissed her off every time she saw her, so now she don't come around no more. I love that.

SPEAKER_02 12:20

But I would say I'ma say this whole way I'ma say this. Sometimes you will look at like certain relationships, and you'll look at like your current status in that same person's life, and you'd be like, yo, that's that's kind of that's what I wanted. And I don't know where it went wrong or how it went left because you are literally doing what you only know how to do at this precise moment.

SPEAKER_04 12:43

Some people don't know how to be friends, though.

SPEAKER_02 12:45

So it's like you well, and I'm gonna say you don't know how to be friends sometimes in certain relationships. Like KD said, you did good in another relationship. I saw it, yep, but in this relationship you didn't. So for whatever reason, you felt like kind of like when our kids talk, right? They be like, nah, if my mama get upset, I'm going. But if if my dad get upset, he got it. But what if your dad don't really got it? What if your dad really wants? But they never gonna jump in because they're gonna feel like dad got it. Any minute now, he's gonna get up off that ground and he's gonna be straight. Any minute now, I'm gonna go out then help him with these bags, even though I see he got 60 bags in his hand. Yeah, but dad got it. But if mom pulls up with a bag, they run out, I got it, I got it, what's up?

SPEAKER_03 13:26

So but I also feel like we instill that in them though, right?

SPEAKER_02 13:29

Yeah, I get it. But I'm I mean, it's a like I said, it's a it's a male trait thing, right? To where men look at other men and feel like if a man is broke down and they just sitting in the car chilling, whatever, trying to figure it out. Nine times out of ten, other men just gonna keep going. You said that unless you are outside like trying to push it or you up on unless you're doing something where we can kind of see that you actually need help. Uh but a woman can be you can actually be doing something, uh-huh. And a man gonna stop. Hey, let me change that tie for you. You already got the card jack up, the tie in your hand, all that. They still gonna come and try to assist. They might have arterior motive, but they still going to assist, they're gonna give a hand somehow, somehow. So certain relationships sometimes look like they don't need the the assist, yeah, right? But that's that made me think about something. You might need the assist, right? You know what I'm saying? So what do you make you think about?

SPEAKER_03 14:19

When our son was in the our oldest son, when he was in the 11th grade, I think. Yeah, he was in 11th grade, and we came home after a night of hanging out, and it was a girl on the back porch. She wasn't even in the house. But or maybe she was in the house. Was she in the house?

SPEAKER_02 14:39

I think so.

SPEAKER_03 14:40

I don't know. He got in trouble. But dog said, but my dad said, but my dad said, if you see a girl in trouble, you're supposed to help her. I said, Well, how did you know she was in trouble? And he was like, I seen her out my bedroom window. Now at the time, his bedroom window was upstairs facing the back of the house. Right. How the fuck Tom out well, she was right under the street light. I said, I know you fucking lying. I know you're fucking lying.

SPEAKER_02 15:13

And we should have known then. We are well, we did know. We knew what it was what we were about to get into in life, man. It was coming, but yeah, no, I think that's a that's a a very strong point, man. But sometime, and I think I heard Kiki say it a few episodes ago before she got super busy because she was missing a couple episodes, but a few episodes. It's election season, don't do that. Listen, it's busy, man. We we support it, we support greatness. That's true. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 15:39

Well, she was like, I took that class. I said, I know that's what I have.

SPEAKER_02 15:43

I just I'm just excited to be around greatness because you know when the greatness is in you and it overflows, look who's standing right next to you.

SPEAKER_03 15:51

But you know, and that's what I love about us. I I this is what I love about us, and I also feel like this is what people envy about us so much. The fact that no matter what we got going on, whether it's a happy occasion, sad occasion, just a fucking Tuesday, we're always going to love on each other and uplift each other. And it's like every time we a family outside of our family that allows our family into our family, yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like, you know what I mean? Even like, even down to our kids. Like, we are we got a son that that's going to prime, and I was like, I don't give a fuck. That nigga can walk to prime. And BFF, like, no, we're gonna get him some subs, pushing them through, baby. No, no, no. But I just feel like we're where we are. I don't want to say weak, but yeah, like where we're weak or not, scourged for sure. Yeah, we're the rest of us are like, no, we got that. We got this. Like, yeah, like we are really a double family because you know, we also have their goddad. So it's the four of us together raising these kids. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 16:50

And that's what it reminds me of is we old enough to know this. We're not that old, y'all, but we old enough to know that when back in the day when when our parents was waiting on their checks to come in the mail, how excited was the neighborhood when they saw the mail truck. Or they just they knew they knew Mama Cheryl just got hers. So I know my hey, he's on his way down here. Let's come. So that's how that's how I look at us like okay, greatness is right here. It it's gotta, it's here.

SPEAKER_03 17:22

Or think about everybody back in the day when my when when my brother lived here that lives in Arizona, when the ice cream truck, oh my my brother is 100% one of the people. Every single kid on we don't even gotta know the kid. If it's a kid outside, they getting ice cream, yeah. And I remember one time it was a little boy outside, he said, You want the ice cream, man? He like, yeah, you get one for my sister. And my brother was like, Yeah, oh my brother said, Yeah, dog went in the house and got like seven keys.

SPEAKER_04 17:52

Oh, oh, oh, but that was when the ice cream truck was cheap, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 17:58

But no, he was spending a hundred plus. Oh no, but because when I say literally every kid, so when he went in the house to get his sister, then his cousins and like, but it didn't matter to him. But it got to the point where if if my brother was outside and the ice cream truck was coming, I'm talking about kids from around the corner, but it's the same, like in the concept of like the checks, it was like how the kids got when the ice cream. Yeah, because they're like, oh, if Mr.

SPEAKER_02 18:24

Chris outside, he's gonna get you know, so all right, let's help somebody real quick before we uh we'll try, you know. So I say, What's good, what's good, RIP family. I need real answers. Oh shit. Because I'm trying not to crush, I'm trying not to crash out. Oh trying hard. All right. My wife went to work to a work conference in Atlanta.

SPEAKER_04 18:54

Oh hotlanta, baby.

SPEAKER_02 18:55

Say less and told me her company only covered part of the trip. A few days later, I found out her work husband in quotation used his airline points to upgrade her flight and pay for a hotel's upgrade, too. She swears nothing happened and says, I'm insecure because he does he does that for everybody.

SPEAKER_03 19:24

So he upgraded everybody flight and everybody hotel.

SPEAKER_02 19:27

No, it was just your turn. It was your turn. Oh, he does it for everybody, but not at the same time. But it's your turn. I told her there's no way no other man should feel comfortable spending money on on you like that when you're married. Now she's saying I'm controlling intoxic.

SPEAKER_03 19:45

What? So she's not disrespectful, ladies. Huh?

SPEAKER_02 19:49

Would y'all be cool with your husband doing this for another woman at what?

SPEAKER_03 19:53

My husband can't buy a bitch a hot dog. You talking about upgrade a plane and a hotel, and no perks for himself. He probably joined it exactly. He no, he upgraded jaw room. So I'm like, and then join it. So she said the company only paid for part of the trip.

SPEAKER_02 20:09

Yeah, so so it sounds like she was saying that the company paid for it, but he upgraded it, he upgraded it to be better. You don't have to sit first all the way in the back in the tail of the plane. First of all, you ain't riding on spirit that's close because apparently she she had to take it right.

SPEAKER_03 20:25

So you coming home telling on your own self, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:29

I don't see the best part.

SPEAKER_04 20:31

He probably broke BFF.

SPEAKER_03 20:34

Wait, and she likes she like look, you say what my work husband is look what he does look what he be doing. I can't even have co-workers if she got a work husband.

SPEAKER_02 20:42

But is it broke if I don't know my co-worker? Is it broke if you're not telling me the truth, though? If you're telling me your company finna pay for it, uh you ain't even giving me the option to pay because you're telling me your company doing it, and because y'all work for the same company, you can't you know what it is.

SPEAKER_03 20:57

That's what I'm saying. Why did she even tell him?

SPEAKER_02 20:59

Here's the thing in my head out told him oh, unless he found the receipt or anything, but in my head, it wasn't it wasn't a work, it wasn't a work trip. That's what I feel like.

SPEAKER_04 21:08

I feel like you weren't even you think it wasn't even a work trip.

SPEAKER_02 21:11

Yeah, I went you just went out of time with your dude. Went out of time with your dude to hotlanta. Oh, got it in. You can say it's a work trip, so that way I mean that's you don't want to be, yeah, you don't want to be it could be a work trip as long as we had a conversation.

SPEAKER_03 21:25

That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_02 21:28

As long as we put in conversation about work at these at this trip, it becomes a work trip, and now we can write it off.

SPEAKER_05 21:35

That's messy.

SPEAKER_02 21:36

You know how they say it though at the dinner. All right, so how can we change these numbers? Oh, yeah, that's true. All right, cool. Now it's a work trip. Let's get in or around for everybody.

SPEAKER_04 21:46

I feel like he ain't going nowhere though. So why are you either? I yeah, I don't think he's going nowhere.

SPEAKER_02 21:50

You definitely not going nowhere. So this is the thing.

SPEAKER_03 21:53

It's certain things while she listened. She's gonna be like that whole ass nigga wording to that show about me. Listen, this hey girl. The first Girl, you're doing right.

SPEAKER_04 22:01

You can get away with it. Keep doing it.

SPEAKER_03 22:02

Do another trip.

SPEAKER_02 22:03

The first strike is for you to come home talking about a work husband. Let's cut it right there.

SPEAKER_03 22:12

Oh, we gotta start there.

SPEAKER_02 22:13

Let's start right there. This is in the beginning of it. Oh, you. I'm never gonna acknowledge that you have a work husband. Whether you pretend like you do when you go to work, I don't know about it. I don't have a work husband. Not in my not in my world. Not in my world. That's like saying everybody get a black eye when they come home today. No, you don't have to get a black eye because you don't have a big thing. I don't I don't have excuse me.

SPEAKER_03 22:38

Is this my corner? I don't have a work.

SPEAKER_02 22:40

You do what you know you can get away with.

SPEAKER_04 22:43

That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_02 22:44

So for you to for me to what he complaining about. If I acknowledge that you got a work husband, that just that just solidified everything for me right there, right? Because I'm never doing that.

SPEAKER_03 22:56

No, you're not, but you're not like people do talk about their work husbands. People do people come to work like, oh, or like a work event or like a work Christmas party. Oh, you the work husband? Oh, I'm the real husband. Like, I've seen it.

SPEAKER_02 23:10

Yeah, I've seen it too. I just never understood it. And it's never gonna happen on my watch of life as well.

SPEAKER_03 23:16

Oh tomorrow.

SPEAKER_04 23:17

But what if somebody called me their uh work wife at home today, girl, and I didn't even know it until we all went out to eating. She was like, Oh, so you're the work wife.

SPEAKER_02 23:30

I was like, Wait, Kiki gets Kiki gets exactly if your co-workers say, Oh, I'm the work best friend. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. You see what I'm saying? So the same, it's the same thing.

SPEAKER_04 23:40

That's not the same concept.

SPEAKER_02 23:41

Don't try to compare the same exact concept.

SPEAKER_04 23:43

Don't try to compare.

SPEAKER_03 23:44

That is literally the bartender for saying she was my bartender.

SPEAKER_04 23:48

I'm I'm the I'm the No I kind of wanted to beat her up a little bit because she kept going. I'm like, if she said one more time, she was like, Well, can I be her white best friend?

SPEAKER_03 23:55

She said, Bitch, you can't be no best friend. I said, You could just be my good good friend. It was like actually one good.

SPEAKER_04 24:01

I was like she was drunk, so I get and she's sweet.

SPEAKER_02 24:06

What they call that she got Karen together.

SPEAKER_04 24:08

Her name was Karen. I'm about to say was Karen right.

SPEAKER_02 24:11

What they call that narcissistic when you uh say stuff like narcissistic, narcissistic. That's what I said. No, you said narcissistic. I said narcissistic. Oh, so when my man said, What did he say yesterday? No, you ain't said nothing, huh? You talking about Gilmore, nah, him too, but the announcer dude when he was like oh he said comp he said conversation, conversation. No, he said conversate. You it will be conversated.

SPEAKER_03 24:36

No, that's what he kept saying. No, he said it'd be comp com confiscated.

SPEAKER_02 24:41

No, he he said conversated, it will be conversated by the district, and he said it twice.

SPEAKER_03 24:46

And I said it because he thought it was right, nobody said anything.

SPEAKER_02 24:49

Well he was in the booth.

SPEAKER_03 24:51

But what he was trying to say was confiscated, yeah. He was like, if you guys are out there with those uh shock posts, they will be constant. What do you say, babe? Conversated, confiscated by the district. We was like, What?

SPEAKER_02 25:02

And then he said it again. I was like, Oh, he meant that.

SPEAKER_03 25:04

He thought it was right, right? He's been using that word, stay in your lane.

SPEAKER_02 25:07

But when people say stuff like, oh no, you just being insecure. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 25:14

I think people deflect, right? So if I if I say you're being insecure, you're being toxic, you're not trusting me, you're making me feel the way, then I think people start internalizing those words because nobody wants to be those things. So now he's like, Damn, am I tripping? You know what I'm saying? Because sometimes when you when you feel the way, and then the person who you're telling, and they they're combative with how you feel, now you like, damn, am I tripping? But you're not tripping though. Like, sis went whole ass out of time with somebody else. That's not true.

SPEAKER_04 25:43

She was dead wrong.

SPEAKER_03 25:44

That was and came home and told you about it. She probably, never mind.

SPEAKER_02 25:47

Even when you use words like consciences, right? Oh, after doing further investigation of what like the word is, and people, you know, in the medical field, professional field, saying that everybody has that trait in everybody. At that point, it's not bad to be called it unless you just overuse it.

SPEAKER_03 26:07

Well, it's they overuse it like it's bad to be called it when you are portraying it in a negative way, right? So if your narcissism is breaking me down as a person, that's not good. Right. That's very bad. You know what I'm saying? But people use their narcissism to have power over people. And when when you're using it, like you said, everybody got it, right? Everybody got a little bad in them, right? But when you use it in such a detrimental way to other people, not me, but then you not, huh?

SPEAKER_02 26:34

So not to be a narcissist, to be a narcissist, right?

SPEAKER_03 26:38

You look crazy.

SPEAKER_02 26:39

That just means that you you kind of about yourself in some ways, right?

SPEAKER_03 26:44

And you and you victimize yourself in every situation, even if you are the culprit of the situation. Like you cheat on me, but like I catch you cheating on me, yeah. But you turn it around, and and now it's my fault somehow. You know what I'm saying? So now it's like you made me do this because of whatever, whatever. Now you breaking shit. Now now you got me feeling bad about what you did.

SPEAKER_02 27:06

So so in other words, it's an another word for to be lawyer.

SPEAKER_03 27:10

Lawyer?

SPEAKER_02 27:12

That's exactly what you gotta do, is you gotta switch it up, you know? I bet it's lawyer is crazy.

SPEAKER_04 27:20

So, what you think, T D T Well, I said what I think.

SPEAKER_02 27:24

For one, I I think that you have to, I'm gonna just say value yourself, right? As a person in this relationship that deserves respect. Enough respect to not allow your spouse to give somebody else your same title that you work for. You know what I'm saying? So you work for this title, but you are allowing them to just because they don't at that point you don't value that title, right? For years, even to this day, as much as I love KD's dad, I never call him dad. I call him pop. I respect him as a dad. It's my guy, my man. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know what I'm saying? But my dad was such a great dad, or is such a great dad, because he's still living, that I don't share that title.

SPEAKER_05 28:13

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 28:16

So even with like, I remember my mama was getting pissed when she heard me call Katie's mom. So I had to kind of switch it up. I was like, okay, I call one mom, one mama, or whatever. You know, something to where it's not the same title, yeah, right? The same word. Uh-huh. Because as we heard before on this show, words have meaning. So when they have the meanings, you gotta keep the meaning sacred as they are.

SPEAKER_05 28:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:40

Or if you don't, then what's the value of giving them that meaning?

SPEAKER_05 28:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:43

Like, like, like we are with the word best friend or just friend in general.

SPEAKER_05 28:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:47

If you call everybody a friend, then what's the value of getting that title? You know what I mean? Yeah. So when you get it, it's like they call me a friend. You know what I'm saying? Uh-huh. So for me, for this young man, I would tell, I don't know your age, but as an OG, you call everybody.

SPEAKER_03 29:03

Everybody called everybody was calling him OG yesterday. He likes, so I'm OG to everybody.

SPEAKER_02 29:06

Even at work, even at work, they come out of OG.

SPEAKER_04 29:09

But I wonder what he looked like because I feel like he overweight. I was gonna say fat and ugly, but you said it already, so I'm gonna let you say it.

SPEAKER_02 29:17

Yeah, and you know what's crazy? Before we even got to this, this was gonna be one of the most disrespectful, respectfully given episodes ever. But we're gonna say that for the next one because I got some stuff I need to get up off my chest. So make sure y'all tune in next week. We're going all the way in. Because there's some things I'm tired of, and we just I gotta put it out there for the world to know that we're tired of. We tired of we, we used a cohesive unit. We are tired.

SPEAKER_03 29:44

We just make us tired of some shit. We don't even know what it is. We tired. I ain't tired of nothing.

SPEAKER_02 29:49

What they be saying, I'm MF and tired. Oh I thought he was about to say the word.

SPEAKER_04 29:53

No, I didn't.

SPEAKER_03 29:55

Why every time the bell? Why every time he gets why every time he cusss, the whole house get quiet?

SPEAKER_04 30:00

Like that'd be some serious shit because that's how my dad was too. Like, if you hear him cuss, it's like, hold on.

SPEAKER_03 30:07

Everybody act like they sleep and everything.

SPEAKER_04 30:09

Like, let me go get a gun because something's about to happen. Something's about to happen.

SPEAKER_03 30:14

Bro, everybody just be quiet and just lay down.

SPEAKER_02 30:16

Like, so the the thing about when he wrote in the part that I got was that he's looking for validation that that's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_03 30:24

Normal normal?

SPEAKER_02 30:25

Oh no, no, no. No, that's the validation that he's looking for. Because the question that he asked was, Would y'all be would y'all be cool? So if y'all, if any if either one of y'all say yes, he like, all right, cool.

SPEAKER_04 30:35

Oh, but you're gonna stay anyway.

SPEAKER_02 30:37

So I feel like he's gonna stay sometimes. You say it either way, right? But you feel different when you say it. You feel like if you can hear one other person say that they do this, but that's the thing, though.

SPEAKER_03 30:49

Asking me for validation in a relationship that I'm not in is kind of crazy, right? Yeah, because I don't know how y'all get down. I know in my house I can't come home talk about no work husband, right? And I know in my house I can't say some men upgraded, upgraded my chair and my room and my life. I can't do that, yeah. So you know what I'm saying? Like, I so you you can't have me validate. You can't have me put a stamp on some shit I never even seen before. Think about it this way.

SPEAKER_05 31:15

I know she had a good time. A time about it like this, right?

SPEAKER_02 31:20

Let's say let's say eight of y'all went on the trip. The boss is a man, the boss only upgrades your no, you only get upgraded. The other seven is in the back nose area, they still on spirit that don't even exist no.

SPEAKER_05 31:33

I'm not oh no, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_02 31:34

They still waiting on the flight, they don't even know where they're going yet. But you you on delta, invited you on you on Delta in the front. That business class that look crazy as well, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 31:46

Like, no, you're not about to just upgrade. But this is my thing. So, why you pick me to upgrade? I'll be like, Oh no, no, you're my husband gonna kill us.

SPEAKER_04 31:53

Because I was definitely say no, because you said yes for a reason.

SPEAKER_03 31:57

I was gonna say, because my thing is if it's seven of us and you only upgrade my stuff, not only my flight, but my room, right? Why you upgrade my room? Do that mean you're coming in there?

SPEAKER_02 32:08

Yeah, it's not room.

SPEAKER_03 32:10

But that's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_04 32:11

So when you accept it, that's what happened when you get flew out. Same thing, flew it out.

SPEAKER_03 32:15

He flew it or out.

SPEAKER_02 32:16

I got two keys, but you only get one.

SPEAKER_03 32:18

That's what I'm saying. So, but my thing is accepting it, accepting the one key and accepting the upgrade. You already know you already lay you already laying the the blueprint for him to come in when he because why you need a key to my room?

SPEAKER_02 32:32

I mean, I seen this happen, right? At certain jobs that I had in the past where I can see the guy working his way to see if you are okay with it, right? Well, you when you make a joke, you be like, Oh man, we finna go to lunch together again at the same time. You almost like my work wife. You ain't tripping about it.

SPEAKER_05 32:50

That should get on my nerves.

SPEAKER_02 32:50

You ain't you ain't say nothing though. You ain't shut it down right then and there. And so because you did one that's step one.

SPEAKER_04 32:56

Now you move along to step two.

SPEAKER_02 32:57

I'm in. Yeah, next time I'm gonna buy you lunch.

SPEAKER_04 32:59

Yep, no, I buy you lunch.

SPEAKER_02 33:02

Now we just eat lunch on a regular, but out we ain't nothing, ain't nothing bad just the worst until you know I see a green light, and now I'm in.

SPEAKER_03 33:11

I remember when I was working at the home care and one of the uh one of the sales reps was like, You like my work wife? I said, No, sir, I am not. No, sir, I'm not. I said, Listen, the way my relationship works, we don't we don't do the work wife, work husband. And he was like, Oh no, no, I was just saying, I said, and I get it.

SPEAKER_04 33:26

Yeah, you got to shut it down.

SPEAKER_03 33:27

But we didn't we need to nip this in the bud right now because my husband, he's not that kind of person, you know what I'm saying? Like, we don't really play like that because it was like one one rep had like all the reps had work wives, and I was like the last one that didn't have a work husband. And they were like, Oh, you could be my work wife. Like, no, I can't. Actually, no, no, no, no, no. We don't want to leave you out.

SPEAKER_04 33:47

We don't want to leave you out.

SPEAKER_03 33:49

No, no, no, no, no. If you don't leave me out, we all gonna be outside.

SPEAKER_04 33:52

No one is left behind here.

SPEAKER_02 33:54

Okay, I recommended you.

SPEAKER_03 33:55

Okay, first of all, the way that man just be coming here popping up with coffee and muscles, y'all better be cool. That's what the one girl was like. Uh, now her husband be coming in here. He he kind of big. Yeah, we don't I was like, it's okay. I don't need to work husband, that's not necessary.

SPEAKER_04 34:11

There you go. Shut it down.

SPEAKER_03 34:12

No, you don't, and you don't gotta be rude about it, right? You don't gotta be rude or disrespectful. Just say no, thank you. I'll pass.

SPEAKER_04 34:18

I'm working to shut somebody down right now because they've been texting me since March. Good morning. And I don't March. Good morning, every morning. I'm like, at what point do you realize? I don't ever say good morning.

SPEAKER_03 34:30

Oh, that's when we was at when we just at the place he said good afternoon. You say, What the nah's good afternoon? She's talking about nah's good afternoon. Afternoon ain't gonna work either.

SPEAKER_04 34:37

I just don't understand. So my name is gonna try good evening. At what point do you realize though? Like, I mean, usually it don't take people more than a couple days, but he's pushing hard. I was like, dog, I almost had 90 days. I feel like you're just gonna get blocked at the 90 day fiance.

SPEAKER_03 34:50

I was about to say, I'm surprised you ain't blocked him already.

SPEAKER_04 34:52

Because I mean, I thought she was gonna figure it out, but you you know, BFF would be like, Oh, okay, no problem. Don't worry about it.

SPEAKER_03 34:59

Put you on the blog list. Sorry.

SPEAKER_02 35:02

All right, so all right, bet, man. Listen, all right, bet. Let's talk about it. Let them know where, how, when, they can find and follow us.

SPEAKER_04 35:11

That sounds like a good song.

SPEAKER_02 35:14

Hey, come follow us.

SPEAKER_04 35:17

You can find listen to us.

SPEAKER_03 35:23

Why do you find like Tony Braxton?

SPEAKER_04 35:27

Go, Tony. It's TB. You can find us on my favorite platform, YouTube. I don't know, I love YouTube so much. Oh, I love it so much. What's the new platform?

SPEAKER_02 35:42

Uh Buzz Bro.

SPEAKER_04 35:43

Buzz Broke. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 35:44

B U Z Z.

SPEAKER_04 35:45

I mean, if you got the Apple Podcast, I guess you can. Or wherever you get your podcast. I love iHeart Radio too, though. That's one of my favorites. I like iHeart. That's one of my favorites.

SPEAKER_02 36:00

Talk to them, Katie.

SPEAKER_03 36:01

Hi. You can follow hi. Um, you can follow me at your girl.kd. You can follow DTM at coach dtm. You can follow Kiki at rrp.kiki, and you can follow the podcast page on RRP network.

SPEAKER_02 36:15

And be sure to tell a friend and tell a friend and tell a friend, man. Like, share, subscribe, right? What we like to do is we like to have you screen record your favorite part and post it.

SPEAKER_03 36:26

And tag us.

SPEAKER_02 36:27

And tag us.

SPEAKER_03 36:28

Talk to us. We talk about it.

SPEAKER_02 36:29

You talk about it, you know. So with that being said, let me give you this quick message, man. People call it insecurity when you react to disrespect that became comfortable for them.

SPEAKER_00 36:42

Oh.

SPEAKER_02 36:43

All right. So it's not insecurity.

SPEAKER_00 36:46

That's good.

SPEAKER_02 36:46

You get me? You got me? It's your boy, Coach DTM.

SPEAKER_04 36:50

Your girl, KD. Your hostess with the monsters, Kiki.

SPEAKER_02 36:53

And this has been yet another episode of Relationship Reality Podcast. We will see you next week. Peace out.

SPEAKER_00 37:08

Goodbye to my friends.