Marriage Material Bonus Material

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SPEAKER_00 0:11

I'm just a D girl from Runaway with a whole lot of shit to say. It's your girl, KD.

SPEAKER_01 0:15

What up though? You know who it is, your boy Coach DTM aka Pure Motivation. I am Mr. Energy. Everybody love me. I don't have one enemy. I podcast is here now, so you gotta respect it. You never get off on us. We've never to exit. If you know me, then you know that I'm more than a savage who loves living life and is allergic to average. So we in conclusion, so it's no confusion. If you see somebody really than us, it's an illusion.

SPEAKER_00 0:37

What up, do what up? What up, though? What up, though? Oh, sorry.

SPEAKER_01 0:41

Oh, we think so quick. You hear me? What's good, man? Welcome to another episode of Marriage Materials. And I'm the husband. And I'm the wife. Talk about it. All right. So we got a treat for y'all today.

SPEAKER_00 0:54

Do we?

SPEAKER_01 0:54

Yes, indeed. A big treat. You hear me? KD. We finna swap it out a little bit. Finna switch it up. No, not this week. Yeah, this week. We finna talk about it, huh? Okay. So, KD, let's do it. We're gonna give K. So KD is has a high interest and like documentaries, true crime. If you've done a crime, she probably already knows about it before the police. You know what I'm saying? And can give you every detail about it, right? So, this is what we're gonna do with this one. We're gonna kind of switch this up just a little bit today, and probably from here on, because if y'all see how her face lights up when she gets to tell me these stories, I say, Oh, the world needs to see and hear this. All right, so what are we talking about today?

SPEAKER_00 1:41

I don't know. I wasn't prepared.

SPEAKER_01 1:45

Yeah, you were. We talked about it.

SPEAKER_00 1:46

I thought we were gonna do it.

SPEAKER_01 1:48

We said the the we're gonna do the crash. Let's do the crash.

SPEAKER_00 1:51

Oh my okay.

SPEAKER_01 1:52

That's the one that's that's so fresh in your mind. The one that you was like, I just can't believe. So she's gonna give us the the synopsis of what just happened in this case, this case study that she's been on. And y'all, y'all follow us, man. Right right along with us as we give you the juice. Let's go. You got the juice now.

SPEAKER_00 2:13

Oh my god. So, okay, there is a documentary on Netflix, it's called The Crash. The documentary covers the story of a young lady, she was 17. She had a boyfriend, they had been together for a few years. He was 20, and then his friend was also in the car, who was, I believe, also 20. Maybe he was like 19, but they were they all went to high school together. In this documentary, it covers she was driving over 100 miles an hour. The acceleration on the car was at 100, okay, and she drove head first into a brick building. Ooh.

SPEAKER_01 3:03

So at 100 miles an hour.

SPEAKER_00 3:05

Over 100 miles in the Toyota Camry.

SPEAKER_01 3:08

I know them wheels were shaking like crazy.

SPEAKER_00 3:10

So if you Google the crash documentary car, it will show you the picture because when I watched the doc, so I've watched the I'm gonna put it right here.

SPEAKER_01 3:23

I'm gonna put the picture like right up in here somewhere.

SPEAKER_00 3:26

Did I show you the car?

SPEAKER_01 3:27

Yeah, you showed it to them. Okay, I'm gonna put the picture up there so that people could see it too.

SPEAKER_00 3:31

So I had listened to a podcast previously about the crash, and I was in shock then. But when I watched the documentary, when I tell you I was in absolute like as a mother with all boys, I couldn't imagine my son wanting to be out of a relationship and a young lady.

SPEAKER_01 3:52

So you gotta give us the backstory. Oh, you gotta tell us what happened. Talk to us.

SPEAKER_00 3:56

So basically, they were dating. Once she graduated from high school, her parents allow her to move in with him at 17. She graduated at high school from high school at 17.

SPEAKER_01 4:05

And he's 20. And he's 20 years. Just reiterating, talk about it.

SPEAKER_00 4:07

Yes. Um, he had his own place, he was making really good money. So her dad was like, Oh, she was super mature. So I just said, go ahead, you could live with him. Which I mean, who is super mature at 17?

unknown 4:21

Right.

SPEAKER_00 4:21

Like, I think we all think that we are mature at 17, but I don't think you move in with your boyfriend, he's 20 years old, matured.

SPEAKER_01 4:29

I used to think our oldest was a mature 14-year-old.

SPEAKER_00 4:35

That's true.

SPEAKER_01 4:35

For his age, for 14. But 17, no, but 14.

SPEAKER_00 4:40

I was like, pre-high school, he was super mature. After high school, man, whatever. But I just feel like your brain is not even done developing. But they live together, they show like clips of him asking her to move out, get out, like he didn't want to be with her anymore, he didn't want to live with her anymore. And they have videos of her saying, like, I'll kill you, like if you try to leave me, I'll kill you, you know, like threatening to kill him, whatever. But I mean, of course, nobody ever thought it would actually happen. Right. One of the things that stood out to me in the documentary was her parents were very like, whatever she wanted is fine. He like, yeah, her dad made a comment, like, yeah, she was smoking dope when she was like, which it was weed. Like, it drives me crazy when people refer to weed as dope. I know it's a drug, but dope make you think of like a hard drug. Something you can't buy in the store, yeah, yeah, type. So she was like, I'm sorry, the dad was like, Yeah, smoke a dope at 14. Who don't smoke dope? But it just seemed like to me, she didn't grow up with any boundaries. So when the boy tried to break up with her, she didn't know how to handle it. I honestly believe she didn't want she didn't plan on walking away from that crash either. So I do think she has some regret and I think she has some remorse. But I don't, I I do think it was intentional, but I don't think it was just to kill the boys.

SPEAKER_01 6:03

I think it was all three, for sure, for sure. I don't think you stated that before you just said that. So in the car, there were two.

SPEAKER_00 6:09

I said it was three. I said it was it was her, she was 17. Okay. Her boyfriend, he was 20, and then his friend, and his friend was either 19 or 20. Okay, so it was the three of them in the car. They all went to high school together, they were all part of like the popular kids, like she was a cheerleader, they were football players. The friend actually was slated to get like a scholarship to college, but he ended up tearing his ACL, MCL, and another CL, like three different things. He tore like three different things his senior year, three different CL. Yeah, and then he wasn't able to play anymore. So that caused him to go on a downward downward downward spiral. So he started hanging out with like the bad kids, quote unquote. Like doing it. Oh, and another thing, they found mushrooms in her purse, so they assumed that she was high. Toxicology report came back, she had a minimal amount of THC in her system, no alcohol, no psychedelics.

SPEAKER_01 7:03

So you did this sober, yes. You went over a hundred miles per hour aiming toward a wall on a sober mentality, so yeah, it was something mental.

SPEAKER_00 7:12

So she has a disorder, it's called POTS, which I Googled it because I've never heard of it, but it's like a blood pressure disorder where your blood pressure can go like crazy high or crazy low, and it causes you to like pass out or causes you to lose consciousness. So initially her mom was like, that must have happened. Well, this is the problem though. The medical examiner, no, what's it called? Like the sugar.

SPEAKER_01 7:46

Just to say what they said, and then we'll come with the word.

SPEAKER_00 7:48

They said that when you pass out, you don't like your foot wouldn't smash down on the it wouldn't smash down, like if you passed out, then like your body will go limp. So like you wouldn't, you wouldn't be able to accelerate in her case. It might not be the case, same case for everybody. And I don't know if they based that on like on her on her size or you know what I'm saying, or what it would be, but they said that if that would have happened, she wouldn't have accelerated, was the first thing. The second, a medical expert. Okay, the second thing was the way that the road was, it wasn't a straight road, it was like curves and bends and and like turns, you know what I'm saying? So you couldn't have navigated that road unconscious. They're saying, like, if she would have passed out and however her foot smashed on the gas at 100% going over 100 miles an hour, she would have crashed into one of the trees before she got to the building.

SPEAKER_01 8:49

Okay, I could see that part. Now, I don't know about the whole my feet won't push down on the brake because I mean on the gas, because I know some people drive with their toe and some people drive with their entire foot on the pedal, right? So if my foot is complete, if the pedal's like in the middle of my foot, then I feel like me going limp is just gonna press down on it. If if I'm driving with the toe, I feel like it'll either let up or fall to the side, type thing. You know what I mean? I should have been exactly.

SPEAKER_00 9:14

I don't know, but I do I do I do know that they said that in her case that wouldn't have happened. Yeah, like if she would have passed out, it her foot wouldn't have accelerated.

SPEAKER_01 9:24

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 9:25

Like I know like people with seizures, their foot accelerates because their body is shaken and is put in pressure. But for her case, they said it wouldn't have happened that way. Another thing that bothered me about the documentary was she did an interview. So this is the first time I seen an interview from her.

SPEAKER_01 9:44

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 9:44

Now, this just happened in 2022. This is not even like old. This is like four years ago.

SPEAKER_01 9:49

I I would not want to survive after knowing that I attempted this, I did this, I took them out. Yeah, I don't man, that's crazy. Go ahead. What'd she say?

SPEAKER_00 10:02

She she was like, I didn't she she said, I didn't do it on purpose, I would never do that. And she just kept saying, like, I didn't do it on purpose, I didn't do it on purpose. And then she made a comment at the end, like, I know you guys are gonna edit it, but are you gonna leave the part in where I said I didn't do it on purpose and it wasn't intentional? Like, what? Because she she's she got appeals, right? Her first appeal was denied, but she still has appeals coming up, so she wants to make sure that when the documentary comes out, it don't make her look bad. Yeah, this is the thing. She like, I remember getting up that morning and I remember going to the store, but I don't remember anything after that for the day, so she don't even remember the crash. I don't necessarily believe that, especially well, I don't know. She did she did hurt herself. Now I'm not saying she walked away from the from the crash unscathed, she broke both her legs, she was in a coma, so she she messed herself up, but it's just you don't remember. I don't I don't believe that she doesn't remember.

SPEAKER_01 11:03

It's a good it's a good logic to go with though.

SPEAKER_00 11:05

I mean, she's been saying that for this whole time, she don't remember.

SPEAKER_01 11:08

And one thing we know is that we had an individual who said it's not a lie, if you believe it. So if you keep telling yourself this, at some point you're gonna be like, no, this is what really happened. I did not do that on purpose.

SPEAKER_00 11:22

And it was another part that kind of like so they allow her mom to speak. Okay, and her mom was like, What did she say? She was like, I love my daughter, she would never intentionally hurt anybody. She was really in love with him, like she wanted to marry him. So the judge said, Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. You're talking a whole lot about your daughter and nothing about the victims. And she said, Oh no, oh no, we love them. No, they were nice, no, they were nice kids. The judge said, Go sit down. Go sit down.

SPEAKER_01 11:59

Your services are no longer needed, go sit down.

SPEAKER_00 12:02

She likes you came up here just to talk about your daughter. You're supposed to be apologizing to the family for what your daughter did. And she was like, Well, she didn't do it on purpose. Almost like, I don't know, like she like stepped on their toe or something. Like, she said, sorry, you know what I'm saying? Like, and it, I don't know. I just think that as parents, we have to instill in our kids that everything don't always go your way.

SPEAKER_01 12:24

I was okay. That and that's what I want to do. I wanted to bring it back around because I remember you saying she had a very entitlement feeling.

SPEAKER_00 12:34

She did even now. When you, if you when you all watch that documentary and you watch her her interview portion, even now, she has a very like, why am I here?

SPEAKER_01 12:43

Yeah, like so no accountability. So you thinking that comes from not telling your kids no at a young age or not letting them figure things out, like what you think, how you feel about this? What you thinking about it?

SPEAKER_00 12:57

I feel like when everything goes your way all the time, the first time that it doesn't, you don't know how to digest it. So if the first time you're hearing no is at 17, when you supposed to you, you feel like you're supposed to get everything you want all the time, and you hear no, you like, oh no. I like mentally, I don't think you can handle it.

SPEAKER_01 13:20

Yeah, I mean, I say that all the time. I say you don't understand winning until you lose, right? Right. So you you can't be an um a great winner until you understand and master what it feels like and looks like to lose, right? Right. So losing, we we uh seen this today with a young kid that lost and he was not trying to show any kind of sportsmanship, shake no hands, taking jerseys off, and he walking away. That's the bad mentality. That that gives me the the the vision of him being just like this young lady here.

SPEAKER_00 13:54

That's what me and BFF said. When we looked at each other, we said, Oh, that's a we said her name. I'm not gonna say her name because I feel like she gets too much like plebiscity as it is.

SPEAKER_01 14:01

She got a whole Netflix. That's true.

SPEAKER_00 14:03

Her name McKinsey. Um her name McKenzie, her boyfriend name was Dom, and then the best friend name was Davion. And oh, Davion was adopted. Like his sister, his sister was on the documentary, and she was like, We they were in foster care, and then they were they got to a family that adopted them, and she was like, and then McKinsey had reached out to her and was like, I just wanna let you know I'm sorry. Like she sent her a message on like Instagram or something. I just wanna let you know I'm sorry for your loss.

SPEAKER_01 14:37

Do you think so? How much time did she get? I know she got appeals. How much time did she get?

SPEAKER_00 14:42

15 years to 15 to 34 years to be served concurrently. And wow, but she she did she did a bench trial.

SPEAKER_01 14:55

So, do you think that the punishment fit the crime? No, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_00 15:01

No, no, no, no, no. Because you gotta think about it. If she gets out of jail, even if she max out right at 30 years, she'll only be 47 years old. You could still have a family in a life at 47. If she gets out in 15 years, she'll be 32. Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, it's just that because I feel like from what I seen, I feel like it was intentional.

SPEAKER_01 15:29

So this is the thing, let me ask you this, because I think a lot of people get this confused sometimes too, and even myself, right? Once you do a crime and you get reprimanded for it, right? And they give you your your sentence, what's the goal to keep you out of society forever at this point, depending on the crime, or for you to actually learn your lesson and turn around and do better in life after this?

SPEAKER_00 15:54

I mean, that's a good question.

SPEAKER_01 15:55

You know what I'm saying? So, like a lot of times, especially if it's us dealing with the loss of somebody that's maybe somebody else has taken, we want them to lose their life at this point in the system. Like, you know, you stay there for life. But the goal honestly should be for you to learn your lesson and be able to get back into society as a a well-functioning adult or human.

SPEAKER_00 16:20

That's true.

SPEAKER_01 16:21

You know what I'm saying? Like just show me that you you you repented.

SPEAKER_00 16:25

But I think it's also a matter of like not being apologetic, not being truly sorry, and because can you correct us something that you think is not wrong? Yeah, like if you really feel like like I didn't do nothing wrong, yeah, I I get that.

SPEAKER_01 16:39

No, and I don't think you can. I don't think it's nothing to correct if you don't think you did nothing wrong, right? So in her case, honestly, I feel like it might not be a time frame that people should get. Like, I think they need to revamp that, right? I think they need to have an individual who actually assess humans as they are going in the system to see when did this change happen? You know what I'm saying? Did it are you are you revitalized now? Did you fix that? Did you repent? Did you change and go the other way and fix, you know what I'm saying, the issues that you had? You were accountable, you held yourself accountable and you made the adjustment that needed to be me be made. And I say this for not just even, you know, if you committed a crime against me, at that moment, I probably do want to see you rotten jail. But in hindsight, I'm gonna sit back and be like, nah, I really want you to be a better human.

SPEAKER_00 17:32

Right.

SPEAKER_01 17:32

Like learn from this and don't do this again. You know what I mean? So like we talk about this often. That's the part that that scares me with like even some of our sons, especially knowing that we got boys coming into the world, because it's harder for men, right? To where if you constantly make the same mistake and you don't try to change it or or recognize it as a mistake, even when you're being told that it's a mistake, that's a scary spot to be in. You know what I'm saying? So, no, I want you to go to jail, learn something from jail, learn that you did something wrong. Don't learn how to do it better, which is not which is what happens oftentimes, right? Right, we learn how to do it better to be able to get away with it, right? So it's really hard to say how much time this young lady should get. Her in her case right now, she's not showing remorse, she's not it don't sound like she's showing accountability, so yeah, she should still sit there, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_00 18:27

But and then too, like people really be like psych so sociopaths, yeah. Like you don't even see, I don't know, see, I don't know. It's hard because we've lost people to the system that I feel like I feel like the justice system was too hard on them. You know what I'm saying? Like I feel like with with our little brother situation, I feel like the justice system was too hard on him. I 100% believe he needed to go to jail, right? First of all, he needed to go to jail to save his life, right? Right, right. The time though, you know what I'm saying? Like he was with somebody who did something wrong, and yeah, he was an accessory because he was there, but he was also assaulted in the in the in the process, right? You know what I'm saying? So I'm just I I just feel like life was too long, which I was glad when they when they passed that if you were younger than 18 and got sentenced to life, they had to revisit your case. If you were not the the perpetrator or the murderer, I guess is how you word it. So I am glad that they didn't know. So I am glad that they did pass that law which allowed him an outdate. I do feel like his new sentence is more realistic to the crime that he committed, especially since he had like some back-to-back shit going on, you know what I'm saying? So I do feel like it's more suitable. I still feel like it was a little long, you know. 18 to 30 years is still a long time, but it's better than what he had. You know what I mean? Yeah, and then when you think about it, like he already almost did 20 years, like you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 20:02

Like time flies when you're not paying attention to it, but it goes so slow when you're in it, right? You know what I'm saying? So for him, he like, man, I've been here. I done did two life sentences, you know what I'm saying? And yo, that's how it feels.

SPEAKER_00 20:15

And I always remember because he got sentenced the same year we got married, yeah. So it'll be 20 years in October, you know what I mean? So I think in that situation, and then I think about I think about my nephew when he was I mean, I guess he was killed, but he was in a in hanging out with his buddies, they went to a bar, or not a bar, they went to a party. And when they left the party, the driver was inebriated, but they all were, and my nephew fell asleep in the back seat, it was raining, the driver was speeding on the wet pavement, lost control of the car, car hit a tree, he was ejected from the car and he passed away. The young man did go to jail. I don't know if he's still in jail, I'm not exactly sure what the sentence given to him was, but I do remember his mom, the the young man's mom approaching my nephew's mom, like you already lost your son. Don't make me lose mine. As like cut him a break. Like they were they were both in the wrong, they were both drinking, no one should have been in the car. So, like, don't let them throw the book at my son because your son's not here anymore. Right, and it was like, Are you are you serious? Like so serious, she was dead ass.

SPEAKER_01 21:40

So serious, and it maybe in some cases that might be the case, like if you make a mistake, and that that that was a mistake.

SPEAKER_00 21:50

Yeah, I they in the case of the money.

SPEAKER_01 21:57

And that they they was man's, like, it's not like we beat him. So this is something I already got to live with for the rest of my life, anyway.

SPEAKER_00 22:03

I said, but I told his mom that I said, you know what? It's nothing that judge could say to him that he hasn't already said to himself because in this case it wasn't malicious. He thought, which I mean, we all been there. Like where you think, like, I ain't really had that much to drink. Yeah. And then when you factor in the rain and you factor in his speed, he just lost control of the car. He didn't do it on purpose. Yeah, so and my nephew was in the backseat sleep. He ain't had no seatbelt on or nothing. He literally was laid out on the back seat. So it's kind of like a freak accident that he even got ejected out of the windshield.

unknown 22:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:36

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 22:37

So, like mistakes, I do think you should probably take a harder look at how to you know reprimand that. But the intentional boys, and maybe that's why old girl was trying to make it seem like it was a mistake, right? She was like, I didn't do that on purpose. Because when you hear it, be intentional, like we know hers was.

SPEAKER_00 22:55

Yeah, and then they like, well, if you didn't do it intentionally, Mackenzie, sorry, if you didn't do it intentionally, why did you do it? And she was like, I don't remember. I don't even remember doing it. She was like, I will almost say I wasn't the driver. No, you were. You were. When the police got there, you were very much in the driver's seat. And then, like, so the boys died on impact, right? And they're like, Well, at least they didn't suffer. They didn't, you don't think they suffered? They probably were scared out of their mind up until the point that car smashed into that building. I can't so they they seen like some tire marks where like the car was like jerking. So they think that he was pulling the pulling the steering wheel to make her like smash on the brake, which she never did. So I don't know. It's just I don't know. It was really sad, and I I just don't feel like accountability is her strong suit.

SPEAKER_01 24:05

Okay, so that's your we're gonna do a final thought on that. You said you don't think accountability is her strong suit.

SPEAKER_00 24:11

I don't think she's ever had to be accountable for anything, and this is not gonna be the first thing that she's accountable for.

SPEAKER_01 24:16

Okay. Final thought for me accountability is the powerful, it's really powerful, right? And it's because that's the moment when you stop blaming everybody else, and you can finally gain power to change your life. All right. So, with that being said, give them the name of this episode again.

SPEAKER_00 24:34

Marriage Material.

SPEAKER_01 24:35

No, not uh, not our episode. Oh, wait. I like it. I like it.

SPEAKER_00 24:38

Oh, it's called the crash on Netflix.

SPEAKER_01 24:40

The crash on Netflix. Y'all go check it out, man. Y'all jump into the comments, let us know what y'all think about, you know, what KD just described to y'all. Man, how would y'all handle that? Do you think she should stay in jail for life, put her up under the jail? Do you think she should, you know, be forgiving a little bit because she said it wasn't her fault. She didn't do it on purpose.

SPEAKER_00 24:59

That's all right.

SPEAKER_01 25:00

You know what I'm saying? I I listen, it wasn't me. You know, she's sorry. Y'all tell us what y'all think about this, man.

SPEAKER_00 25:06

If you can follow us where you can follow us on Instagram, you can follow me at your girl.kd. You can follow coach dtm at coach dtm. You can follow the podcast page at RP Network. Oh, how can they listen to us?

SPEAKER_01 25:18

How can they listen to us? You can listen to us at Buzz Sprout. Okay. You can listen to Spotify. Okay, go ahead.

SPEAKER_00 25:24

I tried to download Buzz Sprout and it said I gotta have an account.

SPEAKER_01 25:28

We'll look into that because you should be able to listen regularly. Okay, sorry. Um, if you try to upload, then you need an account. Okay, so you might have to set up an account, you know what I'm saying, like you do with iHeartRadio so they can make sure to find out what you like and keep your algorithm going good over there as well. So that they do the suggested hookup as well. You know what I'm saying? We got our own little our own website and everything over there, man. Go check us out, man. You can just listen to everything. You can just bench listen. You know what I'm saying? You can go to YouTube, you can watch us, you can see all this right here. You hear me? You can go to iHeart, like I just said. You can go to Apple, you can go to what they be listening to on Google. Is it Google Podcast? What is it? Oh, you bf listen to iHeart. Oh, you listen to iHeart and YouTube. Oh, YouTube and iHeart. Okay, that's what that's for uh BFF on. All right, or whatever y'all listen to on y'all androids, y'all can listen to it on there too, or wherever you get your podcast, or wherever you get your podcast, that's what I forgot to say. Wherever you get your podcast, my man, bro. Make sure y'all like, subscribe, share, tell a friend or tell a friend. Man, we out here, you know what I'm saying? We're growing, and this isn't just one day that you're listening to us, but guess what? What's today? This Friday. Oh, but guess what else? On Monday, you could have listened on Monday, we'll come out on Monday.

SPEAKER_00 26:40

Cocktails and girl talk with me and Lady Blaze, or you could have listened to us on Wednesday, we'll come out on Wednesday. Relationship reality. You hear what I'm talking about? Your girl KD, Kiki, Coach DTM.

SPEAKER_01 26:51

You hear what I'm saying? And make sure you're following my page, man. I'm giving you motivation a week, a day, getting it in.

SPEAKER_00 26:56

I had already told them to follow you. How many times?

SPEAKER_01 26:58

I'm trying to again because it's because somebody didn't go click it right quick.

SPEAKER_00 27:01

How many times you want them to follow you?

SPEAKER_01 27:02

20 if they can. Oh. You know what I'm saying? Let's get these follow games up.

SPEAKER_00 27:06

Follow Coach DTM at Coach DTM.

SPEAKER_01 27:08

Now it's your boy Coach DTM. We'll get what y'all wear. Talk to them.

SPEAKER_00 27:11

We hit girl KD.

SPEAKER_01 27:12

All right. See you next week. Peace. Couple days. Two of them. However it goes.

SPEAKER_00 27:15

All right. Talk about it. All right. Okay.