Don’t do what I do! Ep 3 CockTales and Girltalk

In this episode they discuss why men think it’s ok to keep women in the house while they go OUTSIDE! 

Transcript

Welcome Back And Weekend Chaos

SPEAKER_03 0:23

I'm just a D girl from around the way with a whole lot of shit to say. It's your girl, KD, and it's your lady big blade. What's up, you guys? Hello, hello, hello. Happy Monday. Happy Monday. Happy Monday. Happy almost Mother's Day. Nope. It's all right. I'm thinking of y'all though. Mother's Day passed already, sissi. But did it happy belated Mother's Day, y'all? Love y'all. Love all the mothers out there. It might be it might be around about July 4th. Who knows? Oh Lord. Time is not real. Hey, time is not real. Time is not real. We don't care about. I mean, not that we don't care about never mind.

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Never mind. Snip that out. Snip that out. So how what's up? What's up? How was your week and weekend? My week and weekend was awesome. Awesome. Awesome. Awesome. Girl, I am whoo the girl. Damn. The streets is not being nice to your girl out here. Okay. Damn. But before we get into all that, my dear, how was your weekend, beautiful? Not the streets, though. Girl, the streets are doing me dirty. Maybe not love your girl, but y'all don't love me. I thought I was y'all's favorite. What is happening? This girl's crazy, y'all. I am a little crazy. No, we just been working, staying out the way. Me and BFF got matched tattoos yesterday. Oh, period. Let me see. A whole period. We did some wine glasses. We did some wine glasses. As y'all should. The tattoo man said, Why wine glasses? Because we some drunk bitches. Okay. He likes you want wine glass or champagne glass? I'm like, wine for sure. For sure. For sure. For sure. He likes like chardonnay. I'm like, yeah. Yes, the long. Yeah, we want that one. Wine. That one. Yep. Yep. Yep. And then we had went to the pink bar and nobody had no teeth. Traumatized. What is happening? Nobody. Nobody had teeth. Was it us and a DJ? No, it was most Latinas. The Latinas ain't had no teeth? None. Oh my god. Oh my God. Not one. Oh my gosh. I said they gum and shit. Oh. Oh. Sorry. Sorry. Listen, them Latinos. I mean, they know they don't got no teeth. That's the teeth. Oh. Oh. DTM said, don't nobody got no teeth? Can I get it passed? I said, go ahead. How what is what is what is what is the weekend without without teeth? What the fuck is happening? Listen. Just like that. So y'all both gonna y'all both gonna make the number. I'm concerned because we don't got insurance. We can't get first of all, we can't get dentures. We can't get the partials. We seen one, we seen two. Then we seen three, four, five. I said, oh no. Oh no. I can't remove the frame. I can't remember. All right,

Cocktail And Wine Of The Week

SPEAKER_03 3:15

all right, all right, Blaze. What's the cocktail of the week? Uh oh, sorry. I told you she's supposed to be nice to me. So the cocktail of the week, ladies and gentlemen, is tequila milagro and vanilla berry red bull on ice, straight like that. What's that called? That is called stay the fuck out of my way. Damn. That is called well, there's that. That is called the shark. I'm just looking in this blue, this blue drink, and I feel like a shark just diving into the water. This is called the shark. Oh, I like it. The shark. The shark. All right, y'all. Shark, shark, shark. So the drink of the week is the shark. It's the milagro tequila with the vanilla ice red bull. The light blue can, too. It's pretty. I never seen that color before. It's like candy. It's that bull. Oh, them dangerous ones. So it's sweet and smooth. Yes. Dangerous. Dangerous is AF. Just say it's drunk. It is. And I'm about to be. Hello. Today. Let's go. Let's get it. All right, y'all. The wine of the week is a 19 crown bourbon barrel. It's kind of strong, super dry. It does have a sweet undertone, though. But not sweet. Like if you're a sweet drinker, I wouldn't recommend it. Yeah. But if you are a semi-sweet drinker, it'll be okay. Yeah. I might have to try that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm a semi-sweet girl. She is getting me closer and closer to her side of the wine spectrum. It's it's been a long work in progress, but she, yeah, I'm almost there. She's getting me there, y'all. I mean, get me a dry girly. Okay. These motherfucking sweetheads over here going to the wine tasting with them. All my shit be red, red, red, red, red. They should be red, blue, pink. I'm like, oh. So I think mine have like three red and then the different colors. Three red, white, pink, blue. They always pour mine last. They be like, oh, because yours is so hard. Like, don't do me. Shout out, shout out to Trina at St. Julian. Okay. Because she be coming for me every time. Oh, goodness, Trina. She's fun though. She's fun. You better have that on deck. Right. As soon as she sees me, she be like, Hey, y'all, just get all these dry ones and put them right on, right here. All six of them. Thank you. It usually be four. So then they get a double pour of something, like two more. Oh, you get six. Yeah. Yeah. Don't judge me. Don't judge me. Because she knows because I tried to get, I did try before, and I ended up giving all the other shit away. Cause I was like, Oh no, this is too sweet. This disgusting. I just just stick with what you're doing. What's the what's the what's the girl who tried all the different porridges? This one's too cold. This goadilocks. Sissy is the Goldilocks uh wine, y'all. Okay. The dry ones are just the dry ones are just right for real. Red dry dry wine. Red dry, not the white dry. Don't give me a headache. Because of the sulfur. Yep. I know my sissy, y'all. Period.

Protection Vs Projection In Dating

SPEAKER_03 6:12

All right, y'all. Let's get into this. Shot of reality. So we are breaking this show down this week into segments. Let me let us know how you like it. Our previous shows, they weren't really broken into segments. So that's something we're trying. If y'all like it, let us know. If y'all don't like it, we don't care. But still let us know. I mean, let us know though. Still, still let us know. Sorry, let us re real bitches. We we like constructive criticism. Yeah, you could tell us, but don't be coming over here with no criticism if it ain't constructive, okay? Because talk to us, baby. We talk back. Oh, okay. Hello. What is saying our bio? Talk to us, baby. We talk back. Okay. Every day. However, listen, we lead you however you popping, that's how we poppin'. So we matching. The shot of reality. How do you tell the difference between protection and projection? Oh, and I've been thinking about that. I've been thinking about that. How you tell? So, what I have been experiencing, what I have personally been experiencing is protection more so looks like a guidance almost, right? Like, oh, just throw to throw something in the air. Oh, you shouldn't go out said place. You shouldn't go out to the bar tonight on a poppin' Friday night at this popping bar. You know, maybe the energy isn't right, or it's just this scene in you. We've grown from that, or you've grown from that, and or you know, your your goals and your aspirations don't align with that no more. That's protection. Projection is more so like if I couldn't do it, you can't do it. Or you know what I'm saying? Like, in my opinion, right? Because I'm projecting my my thing onto you, or whatever it, whatever it could be. And again, what I'm when I'm currently going through the projection or protection thing is I wouldn't call it infidelity, I would just call it people getting to know each other being in that real strange place where it is it just me or you, or is it me and you while we together, and then when we go our separate ways, we do our own things. I was told, I was told, oh, you can't be moving around like you single, and you can't be doing this, and you can't be doing that. But I look up and XY is doing everything of said single instead of that, and you know what I'm saying? So you're projecting things, you're projecting like a guideline onto me, not guidance, but like a guideline onto me of like rules and stipulations that you are not abiding by either. And that I feel like that is kind of like a projecting, right? Where protection is like like I said, like a guidance, but that's so basically like you can't go to this bar at six o'clock, not because I think it's dangerous, but because I'm gonna be at this bar at six o'clock with said person that I probably ain't supposed to be with. Exactly. I see it, or I don't need you messing up my flow, right? But your flow better stay flowing, yeah. Because I'm the only one on this faucet, however, whoever jump on my faucet runneth over. That is projection, sir. And I'm gonna need you to go have a seat, and but that is just that aspect, maybe, maybe you can no, I can see that too. Or like, if I'm like, no, don't go to that bar because it's dangerous when the whole time that bar would like be super lit, but I know it'd be like extra lit shit in there that I don't want you there, yeah. But not because I don't want you there to protect you, but I don't want you there because I don't want to see, I don't want you to see me indulging in the yeah, litness or whatever, right? Or maybe you don't want to experience that with without the other, or you know what I'm saying? Yeah, so I think in situations like that, for one, we gotta definitely put out some parameters, like it's okay. So if we're working on being in a relationship, right? Right, we gotta understand that what I can do, you can do what you can't do, I can't do. But understand that I'm gonna do what I want to do at the end of the day. Absolutely. So it depends on whether or not we're gonna do this respectfully or disrespectfully. Exactly. Because if it gets disrespectful, you might not like how it turned out at all. Because we can get it cracking. I promise you, I ain't gonna like it. And now we'll be doing. I think I'm gonna set forth for you not to like it just because we we we here because we don't like it. Uh-huh. Bro, but that is it to me right now, just the things that in my real life, you know what I'm saying? You know, I love being transparent. The projection, the protection and projection thing, what I am maneuvering through right now, that is kind of like my protection looks like hey, you know, let's let's let's try another way or let let's let's seek out another way, you know what I'm saying? Maybe, maybe that's not correct, but let's let's see how else we can do it. Uh, versus yeah, I'm gonna do it. You better not do it. It said bridge projector older, yeah. See that that could be an issue too, right? Right. Not an issue, but like a like a breakdown because I'm older than you. So not only can I do what you can't do, but you gotta listen to me. And it's like none of that, none of that works when we're in a relationship. You're not my dad. Yeah. Or my older sibling or older nothing. You but even if we're supposed to be my dude, then even with that as my dude, if you're telling me something that's protecting me, if you're if you're guiding me into the to the righteous path, on to the righteous path, okay. You know what I'm saying? That's good. That's what that's what you're supposed to do. You know, if you see me going astray, please meet me back on to the to the right path. Right. However, however, however, baby, don't be out here veering off with me. You know, booky, but don't be veering off with me, but on your own mischievousness, and be oh oh oh, and you better not be doing XYZ. You better not be playing in that toilet in the whole time. You elbow deep in it. You in the sewer. Like what? I'm in the toilet, you in the sewer. So are you telling me not to do it because you don't want me to do it, or be are you telling me not to do it because you're doing it and you don't you don't want me to do it because you already know what that's gonna lead to? Yeah, what they say was good for the goose is good for the ganner, but everybody don't believe that, right? Do as I say, not as I do, but you're not you're not my parent. Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, and if you're on some bullshit, then that that you're not my parent, you're not a subordinate, right? Like you're not above me, we're equal. We're supposed to be, anyways. We're supposed to view each other as equals, and you gotta know my eyes looking at you. We're equals like what and you gotta be careful too when people are like they be down with the bullshit when it's when it's convenient for them. Oh, we could do the bullshit when we doing the bullshit, yeah. But today I don't want to do the bullshit, so you can't do the bullshit. Like, yeah, yeah, or I want to do the bullshit on my own and I want you to be whatever. So I'm out doing bullshit. I want you to stay in the house. Basically, no, I'm not, yeah. I'm not doing it. Get somebody get somebody else. I'm going outside with you. Well, I don't gotta go outside with you, but I'm going outside with you. Like, we're not together, but we both outside. Hello. But that's the thing they don't like, though, right? No, they because being outside is competition, but you can't compete where you don't compare. Hello, so you could go do whatever you want to do. I'm I'm I'm cool with I'm solidified in who I am, but you scared I might find out that you're really a fuckboy, exactly, and I might find a guy who is a little less fuckboyish than you, right? So that's why I want you to stay your ass in the house. Yeah, I can't do it because there's no boys in there, and you know what's so crazy, and this is kind of like veering off topic, and y'all know we literally do that. Side chat. Why is it that they want to keep us away from like all the other guys, right? Like they wanna, you gotta stay in the house, and I want a homebody, and I want this, and I want it then they outside with all the ratchets and shaky butts and just the everything. Wait, pin that pin that all right, we're gonna pin that y'all. We can move that down to cheers. But I want to know why y'all think it's okay for us to be in the house and y'all to be outside with the shaky butts. What the shake you wanna be outside with the shaky buttons? You know, okay, wait, okay, okay, okay. Pin it, pin it, pin all right, all right, pinning it, pinning our side quest, y'all. Hold on, I'm putting it in the notes. All right, y'all. So let's go back.

Women And Post Nut Clarity

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The next one, Susie. So, do women have post nut clarity as well? Okay, first we got to tell them the name of the oh, just kidding. We're still in the same ha ha, just kidding, shot of reality. Yes, just like that. Yes, absolutely, yes, period. Absolutely the answer. That's the sentence, that's the statement. Yes, where's the lie? There is no lie detected. Totally. I do I do think women have postnut clarity as well because when you are super horny or hormonal or whatever you want to look at it as, you um shit be looking fine that don't be fine, should be looking fuckable that ain't fuckable. Then once you get that nut, rather it's by yourself or with somebody else, you'll be like, What the what did I do? What the fuck do it? It's like looking through like uh illusion glasses, like the uh like the silly glasses, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, or like the what they call my beer goggles, yeah. And just but once you take them bitches off, you'll be like because it's almost like taking the mask off, right? I do think horny clouds your vision. A woman's post nut clarity, it's like I see you for everything you are, I see you for absolutely everything you are at that point, right? Like, I'm not gonna say for me, but um for someone let's say like you're super infatuated and like you're in like the real like the courting phase and everything's still real giddy, and like that happens, and you're like, damn, you know what? When you stand next to me, you are like an inch taller than me, and I really prefer to be like four inches taller. You have what you always had all that hair in your nose. What you always have bad acne like that, mmm, your hair always been super stringy. What is happening? I was just like an hour ago, I was rubbing my fingers too. Your hair is so straight. Ugh, you need to go wash your hair. You always Mitch Mitch. You what? I know you always wear glasses, it or it'd be the same. Like you be like, Man, I really miss him. I just want to see him. I can't wait till I see him. Then you see him, and y'all do the do, and you be like, bitch, kick bye. Can you leave already right now? Okay, so thank you for your services. But what about the opposite? Have have you ever had post nut cloudy judgment? Hell yeah, yeah. That's probably worse. What you like? I know I had love to him. What I love you today, I knew it. That shit wear off. You'll be like, I can't believe love to who if it ever wears off, right? Nigga, you were so cloudy one time you got married, bitch. KD always bringing up dumb shit. This motherfucker, I'm just saying, it'd be like that. The post nut cloudy visit, Jesus. That's that cloud lasted for seven years. Y'all hear me? Seven, bitch. How the fuck I get seven. Hold the fuck a minute. Hold up a minute, hold up a minute. House fire cars, $100,000 in banking out, baby. What wait a minute, like what the fuck? First of all, digmatized. That's a thing. Digmatized. What are we talking about? Post nut cloudy vision. That is called digmatized, ladies and gentlemen. Turn the bill. Digmatized for $500. What? That's a thing. What? That is a motherfucking thing. So, what do you think happens more often? Digmatized or the post-nut clarity? For women, definitely dick digmatician. Can more than one man have you dickmatized? Probably. And this is uh this is a wide spectrum question. This is not no, I done say I done seen bitches bust out two niggas' windows simultaneously. I'ma leave a uh window busting and go to another window busting because I know y'all ain't and the whole time she is happening like that sometimes, but yeah, I do believe you, yeah. I mean, one may be more powerful, yeah. But it's a number one and a number two always, yeah, yeah, but for sure, for sure, yeah. Now you just walk around this bitch digmatized, looking crazy as fuck. Do you think that can happen simultaneously? Post non clarity and digmatition, yeah. It's like I know this thing ain't shit. Oh, I know this nigga ain't shit. But boy, yep, yep, and yep, because you feel you feed for it, right? Like, I need it, I need it, I need it. Then you get your hit, and you'll be like, I did not waste my time, but then give me a bag, give me my body back a day or two later. You like, damn, I wonder what he's doing today. I can really get my pipes cleaned out, sure. Could use a good cleaning, baby. Hey, big bit. Oh my god, don't hit him with the big hit. Hey, stranger, like bitch. I just seen you yesterday. Stranger, what we could be strangers in 24 hours. We could be strangers in 24 hours, pull up on me. It's my world, baby. Pull up on me, pull up on me, maybe even fo real quick, real quick. Real quick, but don't have don't have a big body something, baby. We ain't gotta come in the house. We can jump in the back real quick. You gotta take your panties off, just move to the side. I'm just saying, it do be like that. It do be like that, yeah. And then once you're done, you'll be like, Oh my god, I can't believe okay. I'm not calling him no more. But then you you gotta bank that shit. I'll be like, Listen, this one's good for dick. Okay, you're good for dick. Hey, and I just don't know what else to tell you after that because then a motherfucker be like so Sino, y'all.

Surprise Birthday Call And Laughs

SPEAKER_03 20:45

It is my baby mama's birthday. Happy birthday, happy birthday to my babe. She is calling into the show, she is live right now. Happy 49th birthday, sis. Okay, my yes, y'all. Y'all can see my baby mama, yeah. That's my baby mama. Hey no, hey, yes, happy birthday. I love you so much, Miss Taurus. Miss Taurus, yes, that Taurus Queen. You're so beautiful. We can't hear her. Goodbye, she just wanted to see my beautiful face, y'all. I gotta call my daughter now. Goodbye. Love you. She banged on us. She she is gonna be a guest on our show here in a couple weeks. I be asking her to come. She's like, I ain't fucking with y'all. Bye, girl. Goodbye, goodbye. Hang this damn phone up. We can't you hang up. Wayne, hear what she said. We heard her laughing though. She be on a hundred percent of bullshit. I would tell you that. Let me tell you something. Shout out to baby mama D. Hey, because when I tell you she be on all bullshit, listen. 100%. She one of the people you don't sit next to in a serious situation. No, what? No, please don't. Because y'all gonna piss me off. And we still gonna be laughing. No, yeah, nobody cared about me be getting pissed off, but I was completely pissed off. What the get get y'all get away from each other? We be like then they laughing at me. Now they're laughing at the joke, and now I'm the joke. What the fuck? Now you even matter. No, yeah. Then she'd be like, Oh, y'all think she's funny? Y'all think she's funny? That's why we're laughing. First of all, duh. Katie and baby mama D, they they uh mess together, okay. Like I keep saying that, but listen, these two I can't. You these the two you can't take nowhere. Like she said, they're not gonna take nothing serious. You could take us everywhere. No, we're gonna go. But but my nerves because we're gonna set it off, probably. My nerves, your nerves gonna be shot. Uh ASF. All right, and then she be mad because then Blaze gets y'all just doing too bad. But then Lady Blaze will get drunk and try to climb up a building, and now me and Babe gotta get her off the building. I'm adventurous, and she's like, You guys are busting off. Like, we but bitch, you is not Spider Woman. Am I not though? Hasn't been proven that I'm not. She'd be like, listen, I'm Spider Woman. Y'all can be bad men. I'm

Adventure Energy And Glamping Plans

SPEAKER_03 23:17

just saying. Listen, so we talked about Lady Blaze two youngest kids on previous episodes, they're both autistic, right? Right. My nephew is an elope. What's it called? An eloper. A loper, yeah. Not elope. My bad. I'm learning. So I beat the elopee. Listen, if the door opened, dog is gone. And I'm talking about at in 2.2 seconds. Lightning McQueen. Listen, you can't even catch a little nigga. Wait, you seen that that mean fast as fuck, cuz? No, for real. That's him. Because listen, we went to the walk. I got like 30,000 steps chasing dog around the zoo, right? That's Blaze on a regular Saturday. She just the door opens, she gone. Where the fuck she goes? All the cars still here. She just running around laughing and playing. Like having a grand old time. Let me find out. I love to enjoy girl. You are adventurous though. I'm very adventurous. I'm very adventurous. And it's not just intoxicated. Like, no, no, no, no. Perfectly sober. Perfectly sober. You'll pay Frogger. No, 100%. You're an adrenaline junkie though. But you, you know what it comes, because you know, I've been to like I've been to Mount Rushmore, I've been to the Painted Canyon. Like, I when I drove out to Seattle, I had a route of the things that I wanted to see just because they were like super staples that kind of like we only see in textbooks type of thing, right? And I was like, dang, I'm about to pass that. I gotta go see that. And yeah, so be on it though. Like, don't just say you want to climb on the shit. I like camping. Yeah, I went camping outside. With a temp, I took my kids, can't me, my ex-husband, and my children. We went camping last year and we had a ball. We were camping for five days, y'all. When I said we slept outside for five days, and the kids did amazing. We did amazing. I did amazing. Hello. She's talking about you want to go. I'm like, no, I will come and then go home when it's time to go to bed. Sleep outside. I do glamping. You know how they stay. So moving forward, we're only getting cabins. But and that's only because the construction of a tent of to fit our size is just too much for me. Right. It's like 25 of us. Do they got mansion tents? They do have now. I will say the sibling that we have right above me, he got like sweet ass tents with like that shit. You be plugging in TVs and shit. They got like rooms, so it'd be like a living room with a little couch. And like that shit is hard. I'm still not sleeping there. But I chill so that's actually the tent that I had around his tent. Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And God bless you folks in uh KOA. Where was it? What the hell is KOA? KOA. Kensington? No, KOA is a campground. Oh, I can't think of the acronym. So KOA is the camping site, and it's a bunch of KOAs all over the uh the United States. Oh, okay, okay. And I went to one in Fort Wayne, Indiana. Fort Wayne. Yeah, Fort Wayne, Indiana, and that's where we took the kids camping. Oh, yeah, yeah. I was talking. But the people to the left of us and the people to the right of us, they like hopped out their trucks and their and their stuff and like all hands on deck and like put it all together for it. Trying to figure it out, it would have been a catastrophe. Yeah, I just would have slept on top of it. I would have just got a room. But came home. Fuck y'all. Just hey, it was only three hours away. But I do I will say when when we because we used to go with him, not you know, I don't remember where they used to go. Kensington, I think, right? So when we used to go with them, everybody is so nice. The whole campground is super, super nice. Yes, and then when it's time to go to bed, I went home. And then the morning time, I went back out there. Like it's a vibe for sure. It is definitely they look out for everybody, kids, like it was, yes, yes, yes, yes. So I would do it in the cabin. So we're going glamping. I glamp. We are gonna glamp. We are going to podcast from our glamping grounds. Oh, that is gonna be so fire. Y'all look out for that. That's gonna be fire. Y'all look out for that. Live show, live show. I'm thinking time and something about it. We'll talk about it about it. We'll talk about it. All right, all

Cheers Segment And Male Perspective

SPEAKER_03 27:28

right, y'all. Due to time constraints, we're gonna skip to cheers. Cheers! And this is where we get our male perspective and the group, and we enter the group discussion. Can y'all come into the chat? And today we have DTM and Kiki. So, yes, I love my Kickster. Yes, I do. This segment is called Cheers. I know I'm showing my age, but it used to be a show that came on back in the day called Cheers. And the thing was, you wanna go where everybody knows your name. And they always glad you came. Boom, boom, boom. You wanna go where you can see the troubles are all the same. You wanna go where everybody knows your name. So this is our group chat. So cheers is a space where everybody friends, everybody loves each other. We just come in, kick it, and give our own perspective on the whole subject at hand, right? Right. So we had a question before, but we're gonna we're gonna table that for another day. Oh we're gonna talk about the outside with the shaky butts.

SPEAKER_01 28:39

Okay, okay. So yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 28:41

So how do we feel when our when our person wants us in the house? And it it don't gotta be just women as men, it could also be men as women when they want us in the house, yet they want to be outside with the shaky butts in the streets. That's usually how it is, and then in 2026, you ain't doing shit on uh without camera without this here, okay. But I got your location, so I see you. I mean that too, but not only that, but you no, I was there, I was just there watching. No, nigga, you had your face on the bitch ass with the Da Julio bottle on your head, acting a foolio. So you be outside with the shaky bus, is what you're saying. And don't and don't and used to used to, but and don't right now.

SPEAKER_02 29:27

But you know what?

SPEAKER_03 29:28

When DTM did it, it wasn't no phones locations. Yeah, we're not seeing we're not talking about the exposure because a lot of things that we except as women right now, is we are putting it on the exposure.

SPEAKER_01 29:44

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 29:46

Megan Clay, freaking uh Chloe and Tristan. This is all yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. CC CCT footage, like you know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 29:55

Yep.

SPEAKER_03 29:56

I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about which you can't deny. I am talking about the reason. I'm talking about as a man within you, why do you do men feel because I do not want you to fail type because your girl go in? Y'all wait to my cast place. That's my cast place, y'all. I'm learning, I'm learning. As a man, as a man, because I will get in my brother's ass, but that ain't for here. Sorry, y'all. Anyways, as a man, why why do men my girl gotta stay in the house, but I'm outside, and I'm outside doing I'm breaking order rules, I'm violating, and this is not something that you gotta be outspoken about because baby girl thinks you shooting errands and cutting your grandma grass. Nigga, you ain't seen your grandma in six fucking weeks since we buried Lil Ray Ray. You know you ain't seen your grandma, but but wifey think that's true though, you're doing something productive or doing something conducive to our lifestyle, whatever it can be. But you know what you outside doing. You outside bending corners, you got the fresh haircut, you got the you got the fresh car wash, you acting single, you know what I'm saying? You acting bad, you know what I'm saying? And you know what? Hoes is so speechy, hoes don't care if he's single or not. What at all? But you outside acting bad. What what is it? Because if I I could tell you right now, I told I told someone, oh, you outside, I'm outside. He said, No, you we both can't be outside. And he looked at me totally different, like started talking to me different. Stop stop doing the the favorite girl things because I was outside. I was like, nigga, if you outside, I can be outside, and he was on the outside, girl. You can't be outside. And I was like, explain to me why. And he couldn't, and I know that that is the ego hitting that wall. If I tell you why, then I'm giving up the shit. So DTM give up the shit.

SPEAKER_00 31:50

All right, I'm gonna tell you a few reasons why. The first thing is for one, this is where double standards come in, right? Right double standards is is a thing on both sides. We as men don't want to date women that are like us, all right? You're supposed to be better than us, that's why we want you, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 32:09

So if that's but I'm supposed to want to date you.

SPEAKER_00 32:11

You're supposed to want to date me, yeah, but this is another thing too, though, right? So even with the double standards parts of life, there is almost nothing that I can think of that most women will say, Oh no, no, no, my man can't do X, Y, and Z. And I'm just talking about stuff around the house. That's true, right? Oh, yeah, but there are there are a ton of things that men will say, My woman better not be taking the trash out, my woman better not be pumping gas. Yeah, but there's nothing, so it's a double standard from both sides. Yeah, so as long as you are a man who at least feel like you're doing, I hate to say the bare minimum in life, right? You're at least doing the bare minimum. Now you can't you can't like suck all the way around, you gotta be good at doing something, but you don't want to date yourself. You don't want to date yourself, you know what I'm saying? I no, and no way as great as I think I am currently, I don't want to date my wife if she is exactly like me. That's true. Okay, because here's the thing as much as you work on yourself, you still know you got flaws, yeah, and you don't like the flaws if you for if you're serious, if you're for real with yourself, yeah. So you don't want to date nobody who wants to do the exact same thing that you're doing. Now, if you got your own set of flaws, that's different. But we don't want to date ourselves, yeah. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 33:22

You don't want to date no hot girl, yeah. And I could do that. But that's also because we're older too, though, right? But in our younger age, I still didn't want to date.

SPEAKER_00 33:32

But I'm saying you still in the younger, yeah. In the younger age, you don't want to date yourself. And if you know you're not doing right, right, and it's being seen that you're not doing right, then you don't want to get caught.

SPEAKER_02 33:43

You don't want to get caught, but you don't want to date nobody like that either, though. It ain't the court part of it, right?

SPEAKER_00 33:48

It's like you don't want to, you don't want the the competition, so that's why I don't want you out there because if I know I'm not right, it might be somebody out there better for you that you might be able to come across, right? Right. I don't want you to find that out. You know what I'm saying? I think French Montana had a song. Outside is the illusion.

SPEAKER_03 34:07

So that's good. I want outside to stay an illusion out there.

SPEAKER_00 34:11

It's kind of like you know, you I always tell people when if you do happen to break up and you want to get back together, do not leave it to time. Because if you leave it to time, that leaves the other person a chance to see something different that you may not have or can get. But isn't that the point? No. If you leave it to time, you're gonna lose. Yeah. If you're not A1. Every time. You feel what I'm saying? Yeah. If you A1 and you leave it to time, then the other person probably gonna lose.

SPEAKER_03 34:44

Okay, so we run out of time, and I really want to speak to this situation. But right now, a situation is going on where it's not even that I'm leaving it to time, but in my brain, I'm gonna leave it to time for growth to happen, right? But I know that I'm not the loss in this situation, right? So how how but I'm willing to give time for the work, right? For the for the for the back work.

SPEAKER_00 35:09

Right.

SPEAKER_03 35:11

When does one say it you gotta cut the time off? Like when it's too much time, or when is because the exposure, the exposure is what you want, right? Like I want a motherfucker to experience other shit and be like, damn. But see, the problem I had something uh solid. But what happened?

SPEAKER_02 35:27

But what out so later? But this is the thing. What happened?

SPEAKER_03 35:30

But what happened when the experience showed them that they didn't lose out on nothing?

SPEAKER_00 35:34

Yeah, or if they show you that that's a chance or if you find something else, right? Right.

SPEAKER_03 35:40

So this this something that you probably remember when DCM and I had broke up before we got married. That motherfucker was over there every morning. I came to see the kids, they are at school. You and the boys was gone to school. No, I just want to see my sister and my kids. It's nine o'clock, sir. They're not here. But the thing is, I never knew what time he was coming, so of course I'm not gonna have nobody else here because that'd be yeah, crazy. Jesus help us all, right? But he did that to take that that uh freedom away from you, right? Right, right, even though he had another chick, but he didn't want me to have nobody else, right? Right, right, because had I experienced someone else, I might have realized that this ain't that, right?

SPEAKER_00 36:23

Or somebody realized that it ain't that.

SPEAKER_03 36:25

That's true. So that's where the that's where the time is a bad thing, yeah. Because now you start experiencing things that you never experienced, right? You start learning that you didn't even know you was missing.

SPEAKER_00 36:38

People really say it, people really, really take time and be solo, you know what I'm saying? It's always a link.

SPEAKER_03 36:48

That'd be the thing, right? So if I find myself and then venture off to find the side, they don't want that though, because you gotta think about who you are and you know what you want because you gotta think about it. We the gym, right? We are the gym, not saying y'all not, but we are the gym, right? So we are what we are what is is loved and cherished. So they want us in the house because God forbid you find a jeweler that can appraise you at a higher spike. You know what I'm saying? They like, hold on, that's the word, y'all. What you mean? He just randomly come and rub your feet, just little shit. This is the thing, making sure you're making sure you have lunch, you didn't even ask. I didn't even have a meal at the door because guess what? I didn't even know I wanted that, liked it, or needed it. Yep, but now I'm exposed to it. That's the I don't want nothing less.

SPEAKER_02 37:36

That's the dangers of it.

SPEAKER_03 37:38

And what the and what that and what that other person saying, man or woman, whoever, whoever was lacking it. Yep, I knew I shouldn't have let your ass go outside. Yeah, it's just like me, it's just like men or women that don't want the other person to work because now that you go to work and you meet other people and you learn other people, and now they like, oh, my co-worker husband sent her lunch, or my co-worker wife sent him this.

SPEAKER_02 38:03

Like, what they be doing that I didn't even know now. You know they're doing that. I didn't even know I liked them that now you know they're doing that. Exactly.

SPEAKER_03 38:11

That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_00 38:12

My husband don't do that stuff, and now you're at home, like and now they're like, you know what? That job's stupid, quick. Must be nice.

SPEAKER_03 38:18

What job's stupid right now? Like, well, Shirley husband sent her. Shirley husband sent her flowers, it's so dangerous. And Shirley Husband has sent her lunch, and meanwhile, I'm I'm cash app and you $15 for uh on my lunch break. So you can eat lunch while I'm at work, so as others.

SPEAKER_02 38:36

I see why my mom for 30 years sent my dad with lunch every every day. Okay, arguing or not. That motherfucker had lunch, they had he had breakfast, lunch, dinner, dessert. That nigga had everything because let a bitch bad you something at work. Yeah, let a bitch bow you something at work.

SPEAKER_03 38:55

I see a hungry dog wander, but full dog is not gonna wander. That's not always true either. Yeah, that's not true. Because I feel like Mama Cheryl did all the things, our mom did all the things, but our dad still did still cheated. So they probably not cheating for a meal, they probably cheating for something else, though.

SPEAKER_02 39:08

I think it was for sex for sure.

SPEAKER_03 39:10

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_02 39:10

She wasn't doing all the nasty shit, so it was for sex, and a lot of times that's what it'd be.

SPEAKER_03 39:14

They be so old school, right? They're like, I ain't doing all that, and left this pillow, and yeah, and then and then you all like what right here in the back room. I do everything. But to speak to not even knowledge, our our parents think mama was something totally fucking different, okay? So that oh she was, she was, she was, but that is another show, y'all. Lol.

Last Call Word Game And Wrap

SPEAKER_03 39:36

Last call, last call, last call. Last call. This is Lady Blaze's favorite, favorite, favorite part of the pod. Last call, Lady Blaze gonna say a word. You gotta wait, wait, wait. No, keep going, keep going. Last call is Lady Blaze gonna say the word. You gotta piggyback off her word. Deontay gotta piggyback off your word, and then I gotta piggyback off his. Yes, yes. Last call, hot shot. Hot shot. Uh-huh. Think fast, y'all. Oh, think fast. That's what they say. My bad. Think think fast, y'all. The word of the day is monogamy. False.

SPEAKER_00 40:11

Polygamy.

SPEAKER_03 40:12

Impossible. Impossible. And that is cocktails and girl talk. Thank you guys. Thank y'all for joining us for another episode of Cocktails and Girl Talk. Lady Blaze, how can they listen to us? Y'all can listen to us on uh however you listen to your podcast.

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SPEAKER_03 40:37

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