I outgrew my spouse

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SPEAKER_01 0:53

I got two investigators. We just trying to run it to the owner. Over finish, if we own it. Smelling money, I can on it.

SPEAKER_07 1:08

I'm just a D girl from around the way with a whole lot of shit to say. It's your girl, K D.

SPEAKER_02 1:13

What up though? You know who it is. Your boy Coach D T M AKA Pure Motivation. I am Mr. Energy. Everybody loves me. I don't have one enemy. Our podcast is here now, so you gotta respect it. You never get off on us because we're never the exit. If you know me, then you know that I'm more than a savage who loves living life and is allergic to average. So it's conclusion, so it's no confusion. If you see somebody really than us, it's another day. What up yours? We in this thing, man. Talk about it. We in here, huh? What's happening? Welcome to another episode of Relationship Reality Podcast. Now, this is gonna be a star-studded episode. The next two racks, it's gonna be pretty star-studded. You know why? Because it took a lot to try to fulfill the seat of somebody who is royalty now, right? You know, she's royalty, she's out here just kissing all type of babies, you know what I'm saying? They can be regular or the other word, it don't even matter. She's gonna kiss you regardless, man. She's out here doing her thing. So shout out to her. We had to get somebody, a couple somebody, one right now. The other somebody couldn't really tell time at the moment, but they'll be here shortly. But introduce yourself.

SPEAKER_06 2:32

I'm here because my sister dragged me here. Oh I'm just kidding. I'm invited back about Jonathan.

SPEAKER_07 2:38

Don't get on this microphone lying.

SPEAKER_06 2:40

I'm just saying, you know, I love to be here, I love to see you.

SPEAKER_02 2:44

Definitely a fan favorite, man. Definitely a fan, one of the fans' favorites, you know. He likes a relationship, really miss it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. He definitely was highly requested, you know. I was like highly requested. Yeah, type in with me, you know, Mr.

SPEAKER_06 2:56

1015, Mr. Excuse Me, you know.

SPEAKER_02 2:58

Yeah, Mr. Excuse me, Mr. Skill. Got me some skills me. Most definitely, most definitely, man. So before we get into it, man, let's just check on how everything's going. KD, talk to me. How was your week and weekend? What's going good?

SPEAKER_07 3:13

I had a very eventful weekend. Talk about it.

SPEAKER_02 3:16

Talk about it, huh?

SPEAKER_07 3:18

So Friday, okay. We had hung out. My brother pulled up on us at the pink bar. All right now. Skirt.

SPEAKER_02 3:24

Right, right.

SPEAKER_07 3:24

We were having a good old time, right? Right, right. Drinking, laughing, singing. Some weird guy came out of nowhere.

SPEAKER_02 3:30

Weirdy, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 3:31

Extra aggressive.

SPEAKER_02 3:32

But goofy, goofy goo.

SPEAKER_07 3:33

My brother had to get him together. He went on the left. Yeah, went on the left. Yeah, he didn't want no problem.

SPEAKER_02 3:38

He sat outside for about 20 minutes, like pondering. I don't know what he was thinking about. I think he was gonna talk to his friend.

SPEAKER_06 3:43

No, that wasn't his friend. That was that was his employee. Oh yeah, yeah. All right, that's my supervisor.

SPEAKER_02 3:48

That's my boss.

SPEAKER_06 3:48

Waiting, you're not my boss, you're not at work, bro.

SPEAKER_07 3:50

What my brother says, I'm your supervisor. I said, What? He like, sis, we put him on payroll. I'm like, what payroll? Look at me, pick one. I'm the captain now. He's like, nah, we put him on payroll. We his boss now school.

SPEAKER_06 4:04

It was just a disrespect. Yeah, he came.

SPEAKER_02 4:06

My man came in, he was like, Listen, man, I just wanted to make apologize for my boss, you know.

SPEAKER_06 4:13

Nah, he was cubing. I said, What?

SPEAKER_02 4:15

I just wanted to apologize for my boss, man.

SPEAKER_06 4:18

You know, yeah, don't apologize for me.

SPEAKER_02 4:20

Excuse me, too. You can't apologize for no grown man. You good, that's what I said. But don't don't apologize for no grown man.

SPEAKER_07 4:28

When I see him go outside, I tell let me go outside with my brother.

SPEAKER_06 4:31

I was just going up there for some air.

SPEAKER_07 4:33

Yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_06 4:33

Maybe let's air out. Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_07 4:36

That's why I went out there. Make sure. He's like, I'm smoking a cigarette, go back inside. I said, We outside, it's a whole lot of air. I could breathe out here.

SPEAKER_06 4:42

I'm an artist and I'm sensitive about my shit.

SPEAKER_07 4:47

Listen, J Nar don't play about his sister ever.

SPEAKER_02 4:51

Right on, you know what I'm saying? And we got a studio audience in here, too. And the studio studio audience don't don't play about her brother. You know what I'm saying? Listen to you, but she know what it is.

SPEAKER_07 5:02

You be so mad because people don't play about me. Why you be so mad?

SPEAKER_06 5:06

I don't play about nobody.

SPEAKER_07 5:07

Nobody, this is not got nothing to do with you right now. This is what you mean.

SPEAKER_06 5:10

I don't think I could do too much protecting. So I don't know.

SPEAKER_07 5:16

See, that's the difference. They don't feel like you need protection. No, no, no.

SPEAKER_06 5:20

You need her first to watch his back.

SPEAKER_07 5:22

That's it, though. You got everything else, though.

SPEAKER_02 5:26

I be really trying to like not turn up. You know what I'm saying? No, I know.

SPEAKER_06 5:29

I try my best to not turn up because you place with a lot of stress, brother. I'm I'm gonna learn it from you. I'm trying to tell you.

SPEAKER_07 5:37

Don't put your hands on them. Come on, man. We just trying to have fun going on over there.

SPEAKER_06 5:47

Yeah, they see them something different. Everybody always wants to come into our bubble, it looks welcoming.

SPEAKER_07 5:52

It does, because we be having so much fun, yeah. But they be trying to come with bad energy.

SPEAKER_02 5:56

We can't not in our bubble. We're gonna we're gonna we're gonna get to Mr. Excuse me next, but I did figure out what that was on cuz bottom T.

SPEAKER_07 6:04

Oh, what was it?

SPEAKER_02 6:05

He had some snuff in his mouth.

SPEAKER_07 6:07

That's what I thought. I thought that I I was gonna say is that that stuff remember grandma used to chew that stuff? That's what it was, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 6:12

Tobacco.

SPEAKER_07 6:12

Because I'm like, I know that ain't his teeth.

SPEAKER_06 6:14

It looked like he was chewing on people's kneecaps for me, but I didn't know. But I didn't Mr.

SPEAKER_02 6:20

Excuse me, talk to me, man. How was your week and weekend? I know you're out here hustling at uh you know, 24-7, 24-8. 25-8. You know what I'm saying? 25-9, you know what I'm saying? Six, seven. Talk to me. How was your how was your week and weekend? Did you get in? Did you get a moment to yourself? Did you get, you know?

SPEAKER_06 6:37

I don't remember any moments of to myself this week. So, but I got to see my son. Okay. I was sick last week, sick and shady at least, you know. I had to sit.

SPEAKER_02 6:47

You got a good good so when you're sick, I will say the good thing about being sick is that you can kind of lay up, right?

SPEAKER_04 6:54

That's all I can.

SPEAKER_02 6:54

And just bench watching, binge listen to relationship reality network. Talk about it. Talk about a podcast. Just sit back and think.

SPEAKER_06 7:03

I catch up on everything when I'm sick, so because I'd be down for a week with a low immune system. But ever since I started feeling better, back work and make a couple dollars. You know, I gotta make what a dollar every day. I'm feeling better, but I gotta be every day. Every day, you know, yeah, I dig it.

SPEAKER_07 7:19

Don't call my sister no beal, bro.

SPEAKER_06 7:21

You know, she always got an idea for something.

SPEAKER_07 7:23

I mean, y'all are planning a wedding, so this ain't got nothing to do with no vanity. She said, I need a vanity and win sound on the floor in there.

SPEAKER_06 7:32

No, I'm not about to let that go.

SPEAKER_07 7:34

He like, look at this. Now she knows I'm about to go get her one today.

SPEAKER_06 7:39

Got to like that's why I need to leave here now.

SPEAKER_07 7:41

But no, you're not leaving right now.

SPEAKER_02 7:44

All right, bet, man. Thank you, baby. Let's go ahead. Let's bring them back. Bring them back. Let's pile it right quick, man. We got some people that sent us in, some uh situation issues, things that they need some help with, man. And and that's what we're gonna do. And so this one says, What's good? RRP family. I need some help because my marriage is getting weird. I finally started winning. Promotion at work. Oh more money, dressing better, looking good, taking care of my fitness, taking my fitness serious, just leveling up, right? The problem is my wife keeps saying I changed. She says I'm more confident, but she calls it arrogant. That's what happens when you feel arrogant right there. More confident, but she called it arrogant, right? Last week, she said something about she said something that cut me off. That cut me deep. You used to need me, but now you act like you outgrew me. That hit hard. But I'm wondering, does she miss me in all caps, or does she miss the version of me that she had more control over? Can your growth threaten a relationship? Can your partner love you but resent your elevation? Help your boy out. Talk about it. That's deep. So Katie, let me know. Let him know.

SPEAKER_07 9:24

It does sound like instead of celebrating him, she is envious of him because now that he's able to do for himself, she don't like that. So that does show you that she probably dated down because she wanted to be in control of their relationship. And now that he's coming up either to her level or past, she feels threatened. Which means the only thing she had to offer was whatever she was offering him financially. Because once she takes that part away, now she like I don't, I can't control you.

SPEAKER_02 9:57

Like the she felt powerless. Yeah, there was no mental stability there or no mental stimulation, I should say.

SPEAKER_07 10:02

And it might not, it might not even be on his part, it might be strictly on her part because sometimes people think all they have to offer is money, like all I can offer you is money, all I can offer you is buying you stuff and doing stuff for you. So once you can buy stuff and do stuff for yourself, what do you need me for?

SPEAKER_02 10:17

Yeah, I mean, you know, one thing I seen, and I see it quite often, of course. For those who don't know, I am a relationship coach. You know, talk about it. Okay, and uh what I see a lot is we vibe over the past, sometimes heavier than what we're vibing over the future, right? So the things that we've been through, we connect with that. The the negative parts of life, the the fact that we both used to be poor. You know what I'm saying? The fact that we both used to drink, we both, you know.

SPEAKER_06 10:50

That's that trauma bonding, yeah. Definitely.

SPEAKER_02 10:53

Definitely. So we we got that type of bond, but at the moment that I end up getting over it, and you still in that slump, now it's the relationship feels weird.

SPEAKER_06 11:04

Um I like that with some of my siblings, they still regret what our parents did to as kids. I've been out group with like I've been up to the next thing, you gotta grow too. That's why I'm not close to none of my my mom's kids.

SPEAKER_02 11:18

Yeah, that's one of the dangerous things too. Like, even if you haven't seen somebody for a while, right? But they remember you for how you was when they last saw you, they'll still try to put you in that same box.

SPEAKER_07 11:29

Yeah, that'd be the problem though. Like, when you know the owe me, yeah, like you know, you same prime example when I run into people from the neighborhood, they be like, they tell my son, like, Oh, I know your mom. Like, no, they don't no, no, no, no, no, no. They knew me. I ain't lived over here in over 30 years. They don't know me. Yeah, you know, you you know what I look like, you know my name, but you don't know nothing about me. You know what I'm saying? Especially when you think of the person you was back then. Like, I was a high head, like, just I mean, I'm still a little hot-headed, but I've calmed down a lot.

SPEAKER_06 11:59

So, y'all been together how long? 27. 27 years, and y'all when y'all when you was growing and you y'all was growing to together, correct? Right.

SPEAKER_02 12:09

Well, this is what I will say. I think that if the connection is strong, like it's supposed to be, even in the moments when one is growing and the other one is not, it'll make you want to grow. Okay, as opposed to making you feel like this person is feeling. You know what I'm saying? Because like envy, like there's there's a connection that's missing there.

SPEAKER_06 12:29

I think I think it's deeper than it, like I think something wrong hurt mentally, honestly. Me? No, no, you gotta put that, you gotta put it on. Yeah, something something is on the screen. Something is wrong with you. But I wasn't talking about you this time. But to to be envious of your partner growing and elevating, even if the even if you're not, that's gonna make your relationship better, it's supposed to if you know what type of person that is. Yeah, if she gets a promotion to her job, I'm not gonna be all gracious, negation's making 50,000 more now. Like, oh, what what does she think she's gonna do with that? Like, no, like she's gonna take it, build it for our family.

SPEAKER_02 13:09

But you gotta also look at the type of person who it is, right? So if she is getting that promotion, is it a promotion for y'all?

SPEAKER_06 13:18

No, that's her, that's her career. That's her career.

SPEAKER_02 13:20

No, no, it's her career. But what I'm saying is, is it a promotion for y'all? Meaning this is gonna better the family now, as opposed to that's me. What you bringing in, yeah, but the separation part of it, you feel what I'm saying? That's what makes the competition part because you separated things like that.

SPEAKER_06 13:39

You know what I mean? I've never combined money with any female I've ever been with. Every time it has always been me, me, they it's this mine. Every time we didn't put some money in somewhere, was ever since I've been with my fiance, it's been our how much money we have. Yeah, yeah. It's never been that's a more powerful word, though. Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_07 13:57

But that's also what separates her from anybody else you've been with, is that if she got it, y'all got it. If you got it, y'all got it. It's not if she got it, she got it. If you got it, you got it. You know what I'm saying? Which is how DTM and I has have always been. Like, I recently got a promotion at job at my job, and I recently got some paperwork behind me. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 14:17

Can't breathe talking about it. You gotta put a stamp on that.

SPEAKER_03 14:22

But what you do at your job is I'm gonna leave now.

SPEAKER_07 14:25

Oh, certified and license went on and took the state test and passed. But big technician, when I did that, for one, DTM is the one who actually went online and scheduled my test because I wouldn't do it. I'm like, no, no, I'm not ready, I'm not ready. He like, yeah, this day, this time, you there go the address, it's already paid for. I said, wait, wait, I wasn't ready. He like, no, you ready. So he put the battery in my back because the promotion that I wanted at work, I couldn't get it without being certified. So I'm like, I ain't gonna do it.

SPEAKER_06 14:57

You're not supposed to push them down each other down, you're supposed to push each other forward. Exactly.

SPEAKER_07 15:00

Because you're not you're not supposed to have a crab in a barrel mentality, which to me is what this young lady has. I want to see you doing good, but not better than me. Right, that's that's a I can't be better. You my person.

SPEAKER_02 15:10

That's some sick, that's sick. That's sick, good mentally to me. So, I mean, and now we are let me shoot this lady's a little bit of bail because I see some words in here that's been used, and I know my brother is very big on words, right? He is his his famous line in the middle of an argument words got meanings, all right. We get it, right? Well, it's got meaning, right? No, he don't play, but when they do when I read things like I finally started winning, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 15:41

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 15:43

So I hear a separation on his behalf as well, right? But do he feel that way because he forced to? My thing they think they was in competition with each other. That's what it sounded like.

SPEAKER_07 15:52

But it sounded like well, maybe she was putting him down because he wasn't making money.

SPEAKER_02 15:56

Because when you so when KD dropped her book, we dropped the book. Talk yes. When KD got a promotion, we got a promotion. You know, when I dropped my book, we dropped the book. When we got the bestseller, we got the best seller. That's how it's supposed to be. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_07 16:10

Like my name wasn't on that plaque. It wasn't on, it wasn't.

SPEAKER_02 16:13

I mean, no, no, no, no, no, no. The last name.

SPEAKER_07 16:15

Just throwing that out there.

SPEAKER_06 16:17

When you get married, when they like porn. It's it's here. This Mr. and Miss is the outset.

SPEAKER_02 16:22

Yeah, that's true. Okay, you know, so you my name, it's your name.

SPEAKER_01 16:28

That's true.

SPEAKER_02 16:29

Yeah, say that. It's on your glasses. My name is my name. It's on the glasses, you know what I mean? So my new ones for sure. Yeah, I hear I hear separation even on his behalf too. So that kind of lets me know that there is a high level of separation in this relationship, regardless. And the thing is, you don't you don't mind not being separated when you when you're down. I now Jay said this a long time ago. If we both got money, I can't tell if you really here for me. If we both down, I still can't tell if you really here for me. But if one of us is up and one of us is down, now I can get to see if you really here for me, if you're the one that's down. Or if you're the one that's up. You know what I'm saying? So just saying that he was down. Yeah, I got what you're saying. Now I can see if this is a genuine relationship for you. 50 made a song like that.

SPEAKER_07 17:25

But you know, some people some people, some people like being the richest person in the room, some people like being the smartest person in the room. So once you threaten that, they don't want you in the room with them no more. Yeah, but you and it's hard for us to to think that way because we not like that. I was just about to say, you know what I'm saying? Like, we ain't never think about it, y'all. We ain't never went out and fought like fought like nickel and dime shit. Nigga, I got the tab, you got the tab, it don't matter. If anything, we fighting over who's gonna pay the tab. You know what I'm saying? We're not saying, oh, I only had a salad. So our mentality is way different than other people's. I done seen friendships fall apart over the bill. What is wrong with y'all? Just throw your card up there and pay that shit.

SPEAKER_02 18:06

It's not that hard. It it ain't that hard, but even when and and the crazy, if y'all, if y'all didn't check out the episode that that myself and the doctor was on, we kind of breezed over this a little bit, right? Even if you want to be the smartest or the richest person in the room, and somebody looks like they're threatening that title, that should just make you want to go harder.

SPEAKER_07 18:32

Yeah, but that ain't not run away from the room. Because I don't, I don't, I don't see no elevation in me. So I don't want you to get where I'm at. Because if this is my ceiling, I feel like I'm if I feel like I'm at my ceiling, you can't get up here with me because I can't go nowhere else.

SPEAKER_02 18:49

But that and that's how my mind works, right? Also, is sometimes I do feel like I be at a ceiling, but I see somebody who's doing what I'm doing at a higher level. I see somebody who has something that I didn't even know I wanted until I saw it. Yeah, and then it makes me want to go harder, further, faster, better. You know what I'm saying? So even in that in that instance, when you see that, you still, in my opinion, I'm just talking as a coach, you know what I'm saying? I ain't trying to I ain't trying to coach you, I'm just trying to talk to you as a coach. Listen, in my opinion, that should like KD said, put a batter in your back and make you want to do better, make you want to let this iron sharpen your iron to get better.

SPEAKER_06 19:31

I love finding out things I don't know. Like, yeah, and then it's somebody when it's somebody there to be like, hey, let me show you how to do this. Let me hey you I I would tell you, I'm not, I don't know how to do that. He knows this. I can call him. I don't know. I need to.

SPEAKER_07 19:46

Hey, come come out this TV, funny.

SPEAKER_06 19:48

But but I enjoy learning and you know what I'm saying, new things. I don't care what it is, a word, how to pronounce a word, what was the word? Uh compartmentalized. Compartmentalize. Compartmentalized. I just couldn't say it together, but it's just the little things that I I enjoy learning. So I don't mind somebody being smart, being richer. I want to learn how to get better every day.

SPEAKER_07 20:11

Because how you get better if you're around, if you're not around things that are better. Like, how do you ever get to the fourth grade if you only learn third grade shit? That's called you gotta pass.

SPEAKER_02 20:20

That's called moving the goalpost, right? You trying to you want you want the false success, you want that that feeling, that false feeling.

SPEAKER_07 20:27

That's why that's why I'm like I don't like the word like I'm grown, because grown, grown is like that you you are at completion. No, you're growing, yes, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:38

Even now, you're growing.

SPEAKER_07 20:40

I can't go too long without learning something. That'll drive me crazy.

SPEAKER_02 20:43

And that's the thing. Like, I remember back in the day, long, long time ago. You know, this was before I was a coach, but long, long, long time ago, not just myself, but like a lot of people who was in my whole little circle at that moment. We wanted to be like you know, the BMF of our squad. We wanted to just sell dope, we wanted to do it, right? But we were doing it in the most dumbest way ever. So we would we would we would buy back in the day. This was before you know all these 80s. I don't know what that is now, but we would buy a nickel bag or a dime bag, and we would sell the nickel bag in the dime bag. So we the middleman coming out with nothing, but we was able to say we did it. We this is what we do. I say, Oh no, I would find the dumb. No, but even the heavier stuff, like I would be the one that would, and I was the dumbest at this. You were doing it just so you have to be able to say, I did it, you know what I'm saying? Just to say this is what we do. We beat them up out here, we're making bread. It's the same way. I just gave it to you, and you gave it went to a little cycle. I didn't get it.

SPEAKER_07 21:49

I think I bought it for five dollars and I sold it for five dollars. I didn't make not one dollar.

SPEAKER_02 21:54

Not one this is stupid. I'm risking my freedom for five dollars. But for for title, yeah. For the self-fulfillment to be able to say, I did this and I do this. Yeah. Right. So that's kind of the same situation, like what we're talking here, to where sometimes you just you put yourself in a spot where what you feeling is not necessarily real. Right. And then when somebody threatens that, you're like, oh, I gotta go. You know what I'm saying? I can't be around. I ain't never, I don't never, I don't be thinking about people.

SPEAKER_06 22:31

So I'm I am the room. Like I'm the room.

SPEAKER_07 22:35

I'm the birthday. Like I'm the candle, the cake, nigga, the eggs.

SPEAKER_06 22:38

I could be in the bar by myself. I could if I'm with my people, I'm I'm gonna just be with my people. Y'all notice I I don't, I'm a nice guy. I'm just not friendly. I'm just not. So I just know I can, but I just know me. I don't I don't feel threatened by anybody. I don't look, I don't what's the envy anything anybody has? I want to figure out how you got it, and so I can get it.

SPEAKER_07 23:02

That yeah, that's all. But to me, it sounds like she wants him to be, she don't want him to be the best version of himself because she feels like the best version of himself is not gonna love this version of herself.

SPEAKER_06 23:14

I want to know why she feels like that.

SPEAKER_02 23:15

Okay, that's a good question. I can give y'all another, another, let's spin it a different way, real quick. And so, and I'm only saying this because I can probably remember feeling like this, not like her, but like this in a different way, right? Sometimes you feel like KD may have downgraded at this time, right? Because I'm like, man, she she deserves so much more. I can't I keep cheating on this girl, she won't leave me alone. Right, yeah, I keep cheating on, I keep cheating on my health or she's gonna leave me alone. You know what I'm saying? I can't get life, I just can't get it right, right? She she deserves something right, she deserves something better, and I'm trying to work on me. I'm not quite there yet. You feel what I'm saying? No, no, but at this time I was still like you know, I was dabbling my foot up hop scotch in and out, right? Yeah, what was that for the recognition again? You just doing it to be doing no no, I was doing it because I didn't understand why I was doing it. Okay, you know what I'm saying? I had to really do I had to do self-evaluation, soul searching, okay, self-assess why I was doing it. I used to say I'm not gonna do it, and I meant it, but then I'd do it again. But I was doing all kind of dumb stuff, and then imagine you doing dumb stuff you already feel like you're not good enough for. Okay, and then she comes home like, yeah, I just got a promotion. Yeah, I'm doing this. Um, all I'm hearing good on your end, and I'm like, shoot, she really, she really shouldn't be here. Like, you know what I'm saying? She really, she really should have been late, you know what I mean? Who am I?

SPEAKER_06 24:52

That's what you think.

SPEAKER_02 24:52

Yeah, like I'm I'm I don't deserve her, is what it feels what it comes across, right? So reading her email, it feels like what if it what if it's a case of I'm only good enough for that old version of you, and now that you up in your game, I may not be good enough for this version of you. So I don't I don't like this version of you.

SPEAKER_06 25:17

This version is you're gonna leave me. I literally was listening to this comedian making a joke about a girl, once you change for a girl, she leaves you for the OU. And he like he all he basically said, I'm gonna I'm gonna change it to some worse than that I am. So then I then I'm gonna change all you gotta do is change it back to who I was. But literally scene is just it's something like it's similar to what what's going on. Like, if I grow, like you what what is me growing? Because when you grow, your options expand. But if he growing and and and talking down on her, then that's probably that's probably an issue too.

SPEAKER_02 25:51

Or if you think you growing and then you coming into realization that you're not that you ain't doing based off of who you around, yeah. You know what I'm saying? I'm looking at I think I'm doing something.

SPEAKER_06 26:02

You're throwing a pebble in the in the lake.

SPEAKER_02 26:03

Yeah, I think I'm doing something. But I look over KD getting promotion out of promotion. She walks outside, she finds a bag of money just to sit in there. She, you know, she can't lose. I'm always happier for the next person.

SPEAKER_06 26:15

I'm like, I cheer and root for my people. Like, I don't care what they what when she got promoted. I I've called her, cheer, we got on the phone. I don't care what it is. She okay, you made that red light that you was trying to make. Yes, she's I'm gonna make it like like whatever. Like, I'm happy my people, hey. What time is it?

SPEAKER_03 26:35

Right up.

SPEAKER_06 26:36

Oh, how you doing, sir?

SPEAKER_03 26:39

Oh, we got it.

SPEAKER_06 26:42

I think I think uh couple clocks is late. Oh, it needs to be pulled.

SPEAKER_07 26:48

There's some excuse me over there.

SPEAKER_06 26:49

What's it's excuse me over there? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, calm down, Bucko. Oh whoa, whoa, oh excuse me, not alcohol.

SPEAKER_03 26:58

Can my heart start beating? All right, excuse me, all right.

SPEAKER_02 27:02

So, like we told y'all, we had another another guest that was coming in.

SPEAKER_07 27:06

Don't be tardy for the party.

SPEAKER_02 27:08

Just trying to just trying to feel that seat, man. While President Kiki is is away for a minute. But go ahead, introduce yourself. They already know you, you know what I'm saying? You was also they already know who I am. Red wrist band, Mr. Red Wrist Band, Mr. Blue Wrist Band, Mr.

SPEAKER_03 27:21

Red Wrist Band, man, forever 2030, man.

SPEAKER_07 27:26

I thought we said we weren't cracking that joke no more. Who wasn't? Last time you was on here, you said we're not cracking that joke no more because we cracked the joke, and 48 hours later that shit came into fruition.

SPEAKER_03 27:35

Well, that wasn't the first lie I said in my life.

SPEAKER_02 27:38

Uh all right, go ahead, DTM. It was it was yeah, it was 49 hours, but it's cool. But um, all right, so we go what what can we tell them before we move on, and then we'll we'll read the next situation and then you know go.

SPEAKER_03 27:51

I don't want to hear no about no more situations. You on the wrong show, sir.

SPEAKER_06 27:55

Oh, we're gonna tell the uh about the what we were talking about, or yeah, no, what we talking about. I feel like I've been watching my boy Corromos, and he just tell people flat out. Y'all need to separate flat out. Y'all ain't that y'all ain't good for each other.

SPEAKER_07 28:09

Who the fuck is Coromos?

SPEAKER_06 28:10

It it's a black guy, he be doing on TV. He liked the new Montel Williams.

SPEAKER_07 28:15

Oh, oh the boy guy? Yeah, he'd be like, Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 28:17

I've I've seen his clips, but he don't but he he a therapist. So like he really that right there is toxic.

SPEAKER_02 28:24

What do you what do you see if your if the if your growth is threatening your relationship? Say that one more time. What do I see? What do you see? Like what type of relationship is it if your growth is threatening the relationship?

SPEAKER_06 28:36

If my growth is threatening a relationship, I need to get me a different one. I don't think so too.

SPEAKER_07 28:42

I think I think that if you if your if your growth is threatening to your relationship, you need a new friendship, relationship, anything because you should never want to be with anybody around anybody or associate yourself with anybody who wants to see you in the same spot next year.

SPEAKER_06 28:55

No, I don't even see all the same spot in 15 minutes.

SPEAKER_07 28:58

Well, I'm just saying, like, come on, bro.

SPEAKER_06 29:00

That's how fast I want to change.

SPEAKER_07 29:01

If my elevation offends you, we don't need to be together because elevation is the is the key.

SPEAKER_06 29:07

So it better be.

SPEAKER_07 29:09

You know what I'm saying? We don't get we don't work and do things just to have the same stuff over and over again.

SPEAKER_06 29:14

I don't want to, I don't want to peddle in mediocracy the rest of the stuff.

SPEAKER_07 29:16

That's what I'm saying. I'm not doing that. First of all, exactly.

SPEAKER_02 29:21

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_07 29:23

What?

SPEAKER_02 29:23

All right, so let's jump into the next one. What you got?

SPEAKER_03 29:26

I wouldn't, uh it's all right.

SPEAKER_02 29:28

What you got? Talk to us. It's all right. Talk about it. You you got it, you got anything to try, man?

SPEAKER_03 29:32

I just know. No, it's all right. All right, it's all right.

SPEAKER_02 29:36

You want me to give you a quick synopsis of what that one was just about so you can I think I figured it out. What you think? What you think it was about?

SPEAKER_03 29:45

Yo, yo, you becoming a better person, but your relationship's staying in the same spot because your person not elevating with you. No, so what you're doing. Oh, yeah, you gotta go.

unknown 29:56

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 29:57

I come home like I got a promotion. You like you, stupid bitch? Like, damn.

SPEAKER_06 30:01

You I go out, you hit a you hit our parlay. I'm looking at your money like you owe me something. You know what I'm saying? Like bad idea. It's a very bad idea.

SPEAKER_04 30:09

But I'm just saying, that's a good example, though. Like that's that's that's the first person you need to get away from.

SPEAKER_07 30:14

Like every time you play your parlay, you win.

SPEAKER_06 30:17

Wow.

SPEAKER_07 30:19

Actually, I hate you. Damn.

SPEAKER_06 30:22

Your car was in the lockup, got it right out. No problem. Not your car was locked up. My car was locked up, no problem. I'm just saying, you know what I was I was happy. I'm happy for my brother. I was what oh I don't want to see you.

SPEAKER_07 30:36

No, we gotta I don't want to see nobody doing bad.

SPEAKER_06 30:39

Like that's one thing I don't like hey, stop touching stuff. This ain't the this ain't the recording, bro.

SPEAKER_02 30:46

You gotta tell him about everything. So okay, so we're gonna jump into this one. I was waiting on a minute 2030 red wristband to get here so we could talk about this one.

SPEAKER_03 30:55

Man, here we go, bro. I'm gonna go back.

SPEAKER_02 31:02

It says, What's good, RRP family? I need real advice because my marriage feels like I'm losing to parlays. Wait, yeah, what my husband started uh sports betting for fun. At first it was $20 bet, then it was hundreds, and now it's thousands. I found out that he drained part of our savings chasing losses and didn't even tell me. He says, I'm one big hit away from getting getting it all back. But every big hit turns into more money gone. Bills have been late. He lied about how much he was spending. He watched his eyes more than he's talking to me, and that's the cra and wait. Oh, and that's the crazy part. He doesn't think that he even has a problem. He says it's not addiction, it's strategy.

SPEAKER_07 32:01

But he's not but he's not winning though. But he's not winning.

SPEAKER_06 32:05

He got a point alright. But he's not winning.

SPEAKER_03 32:07

Relax, relax, yeah. Go ahead, babe.

SPEAKER_02 32:10

I say is gambling wrecking our family. At what point is betting no longer a hat hobby?

SPEAKER_06 32:19

When it becomes way past a calculated risk. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_02 32:22

Can financial portrayal be just as painful as cheating?

SPEAKER_06 32:26

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 32:26

Am I supposed to stand by him or protect myself before he loses everything?

SPEAKER_03 32:31

Well, that's up to her. I don't know that part. Thank you. I got I I'm I'm I ain't even gonna go off on her. I'm just about to ask her this. You ever seen Acrimony by Tyler Perry? No, I don't watch the whole time. That's different. That's different. What's different? Because he can hit, he can hit at any given time.

SPEAKER_07 32:45

What happened on that? I'm not hit. What happened? He can't hit at any given time, bro.

SPEAKER_02 32:49

You can't some acrimony was wildin'.

SPEAKER_07 32:51

So uh how acrimony is a movie where a gentleman had an invention, so he was pouring all his money into the invention, and it wasn't it wasn't popping. So like the parlays, she ended up she ended up divorcing him, she ended up divorcing him, right? So when they got divorced, he ended up linking up with a girl that he actually cheated on her with in high school, and nope, but the but she worked for the for the invention people, whatever. Okay, so boom, he got the he got rich off of it, okay.

SPEAKER_05 33:23

And then she off of her plug.

SPEAKER_07 33:25

Off of the invention, it was still his invention.

SPEAKER_05 33:27

I mean, she plugged him as well.

SPEAKER_07 33:28

Yeah, so she finally got him in the room that he needed to be in. Boom. Now he's a millionaire, and his ex-wife, like, nigga, you owe me.

SPEAKER_05 33:35

Why why was he out?

SPEAKER_07 33:36

But this the thing though, but but this the thing, he bought her mama's house back, like he he he did owe her some stuff, right? But he he cleared his debt.

SPEAKER_06 33:45

I mean, probably due to the divorce proceeding million, but that's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_07 33:48

But that that's not a good example because it's not though. If I'm a millionaire off a parlay, can I? I'm not saying that you can't, but if our license shit getting cut off because you taking the money out the bank and fucking gambling, I mean the license ain't cool because they was investing the money into the into the machine.

SPEAKER_06 34:06

Let me interject real quick. They didn't, it was rich people, were they rich? No, she got some life insurance money from her mama. Okay, so listen, say y'all rich right now, right? And every time the first hermant comes around, y'all aren't working, you just rich. You just well, you you got investments and stuff, but you're putting your investments into bets and you're losing every time your house, you're not winning money. You're not winning. That that's putting a relationship at risk for sure.

SPEAKER_07 34:35

No, but I think the definitely at risk and you're lying though. That was the point. You telling me you're paying the bills and I come and the lights ain't on because you went to the casino.

SPEAKER_06 34:43

I put nigga, go live at the casino. I'm I'm working hard, grinding two damn two months straight. I come home, I wake up, lights off on one day. I know goddamn well this money not counting for some light bills. But she forgot to pay it. That's all. And she just forgot. But my thing is, you said you paid it, and I know I know you supposed, I instruct I instructed you to pay this bill.

SPEAKER_07 35:09

But that's different, though. It's different if I forgot to pay it and the money's there.

SPEAKER_06 35:12

But that's fine, that's fine. But let the money not have been there in my license cut off.

SPEAKER_07 35:16

That's different, right? Now we got a problem. Because where the fuck is the money?

SPEAKER_06 35:20

So you get what I'm saying? That's a different or get Grace gambler away. Oh, yeah, okay, Grace. I'm about to gamble you away. What you mean? What?

SPEAKER_02 35:27

I mean, and it's the thing, even if even if you if you like to gamble, right? If that's your thing, if you're that's not the problem. The problem is really the secrecy part of it, right? You sneak in the gamble, you don't sneak and gamble. That's the issue. You have to be for one, grown enough to communicate what's going on. We just we just I just coached somebody who found out about some stuff, like it was too late though. You know what I'm saying? They was picking up cards and and putting stickers on houses, and it was it was a rep.

SPEAKER_07 35:57

But but my thing is once you have to hide it, then that's when it becomes a problem. That's how you know the fact that you have to hide it, that's how you know once you're ashamed of something.

SPEAKER_06 36:06

My grandma said it said it. You shame you shame. That's why you that's when you the magazines under your bed because you shame.

SPEAKER_07 36:13

No, but once you gotta have a secret gambling like tucked away, then that's how you know you're not.

SPEAKER_06 36:19

I I I hit it, I hit it on my first little bit today. Who I sent my money right to when I hit uh okay. Okay, I no, I'm just saying, I think.

SPEAKER_03 36:28

Well, I didn't win any parlays today, kind of angry about it.

SPEAKER_06 36:32

Should have bet hey, bet, bet on black.

SPEAKER_03 36:34

Niggas make millions. I if it was if it was casino, I would have been rich.

SPEAKER_06 36:37

My thing is you don't gamble your life savings, brother. You're a good gambler, you're you're you take calculated risk. Yeah, that's what I talk about. Sure. I don't like losing. I don't like losing a foot race.

SPEAKER_03 36:46

If we lose, if I lose a foot race, we we're gonna get but also would she still be as mad if he was lying about gambling and she hit that account and it was five hundred thousand in there.

SPEAKER_06 36:56

Yeah, that's I think she would be I would think I think Grace would be pissed if she opened an account and it was five hundred thousand in there and she didn't know. I don't think so.

SPEAKER_07 37:04

I I I do I think because the anger is coming from the secrecy, the anger is not coming from the actual where did you get it from? That's the first thing she and he's gonna be like, I've been gambling. Like, well, why what not if I can't with five?

SPEAKER_03 37:13

So you're mad ready to go because you found five hundred thousand. She's mad ready to go.

SPEAKER_07 37:18

She's mad ready to go because all her shit keeps getting cut off. Sure. I'm working every day. It's money in the count to pay the bills, but you keep gambling it, and now we in this bitch with no lights, hungry, about to get put out of our body.

SPEAKER_03 37:30

Back to what I said, if you go in that account and it's 500,000 in there, then you still gonna be that mad.

SPEAKER_06 37:35

No, but that ain't the issue, ain't no what is it, it's what it is, and what it is is gambling that money away.

SPEAKER_07 37:42

But she might be equally angry because I thought you stopped this.

SPEAKER_06 37:45

You're hiding things from me.

SPEAKER_07 37:47

That the that's what I'm saying. I don't like the problem is not in the loss, the problem is in the secrecy. I don't like you sneaking, gambling. Why?

SPEAKER_06 37:53

Yeah, I don't like it.

SPEAKER_07 37:54

If it's not a problem, then why are you not saying, Oh, I just put all my money on a parlay?

SPEAKER_06 37:58

Well, you gotta sneak into anything.

SPEAKER_03 38:00

Well, hide the handle all your money on a parlay, it's crazy. That but that's what he's doing, though.

SPEAKER_02 38:04

Yeah, but and you know what it is. Like, she says started with 20. He probably hit a couple 20 joints, right? Yeah, then it moved up to a hundred.

SPEAKER_03 38:14

Oh, he popped them a hundred one.

SPEAKER_02 38:16

Then he got he probably he had to hit a another a good 100 boy to move up to the thousand, right? You know what I'm saying? So you feel like you winning, but it was kind of like I got a homeboy who was he was spending at least 80 bucks a day, tip money, everything going to scratch off.

SPEAKER_06 38:33

That's insane.

SPEAKER_02 38:34

But he was losing, but then he'll hit a good 21, but it didn't match up to what he spent, but you still feel like you won.

SPEAKER_07 38:41

I mean, it's like my dad with numbers. Well, he don't play them no more. But back in the day, my dad used to play two three hundred dollars in numbers because when he hit, he hit, he hit, you know what I'm saying? But when he lost, he lost, and then eventually he just stopped playing. I think it's the same thing because it's like they say gambling is a drug.

SPEAKER_02 38:57

I don't know because I don't gamble, it is like you take an adrenaline rush, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 39:02

But the you know what's crazy, the brain releases the drug feeling with the dopamine feeling when you lose the money. Nah, I think you don't get you, you don't like it's a scientific fact. Uh huh, you don't get the feeling like when you're winning money, you owe what we win money. But the feeling that you feel is when you lose the option you feel euphoric when you win.

SPEAKER_07 39:22

So you want to lose on purpose?

SPEAKER_03 39:23

So no, no, no. Your body is naturally chasing that feeling, but you're not realizing that you're chasing that feeling. That's the sickness. You could win a hundred thousand and be like, Oh my god, I want to bet some more, but you don't know that your body is chasing the feeling of losing a hundred thousand.

SPEAKER_06 39:37

That's that's the same thing about when you smoke weed, it releases dopamine and you want to keep smoking. So I feel it.

SPEAKER_07 39:43

I I do actually, I can't even do the penny.

SPEAKER_06 39:46

Uh I when once my free bets is up, I'm done betting.

SPEAKER_07 39:50

When we when we go to Vegas, I'm not gambling.

SPEAKER_06 39:52

I don't gamble.

SPEAKER_07 39:53

Well, I sit and I drink because you know, as long as you sit in the machine, you drink for free.

SPEAKER_06 39:57

You know what I bet on? I bet on me.

SPEAKER_07 39:59

Or I let or I let my brother back. I used to hate. I let my brother back and he gave me his uh car like he did us when we went to Louis Angry Town.

SPEAKER_02 40:06

I used to hate when people said that because I didn't know what that meant at first. But bet on yourself. If you're gonna you're gonna do it, bet on yourself, no slot machines.

SPEAKER_06 40:14

I I'm I mean personally, anything I could do with physically manipulate with my hands or body, like basketball. I bet on myself. I'm not about to bet on a machine, a machine, a grown man. Put me put them cards in front of me. I'm not about to bet. That's still a machine, though.

SPEAKER_07 40:29

Remember, we had we know somebody knew how to he banned from every casino here, Vegas and Ohio, because he knows how to he know how to count cards.

SPEAKER_06 40:36

Oh, yeah, I do too. I'm a genius.

SPEAKER_03 40:38

Um, I don't even play blackjack, that's for squares. Yeah, that nigga.

SPEAKER_07 40:41

That nigga, man, he makes I'm rich off backer rock.

SPEAKER_06 40:45

I'm rich off ideas.

SPEAKER_03 40:49

I don't know what that is.

SPEAKER_06 40:50

It's the closest was it closer to nine?

SPEAKER_03 40:52

Yeah, closer to nine win.

SPEAKER_06 40:53

It's basically like blackjack.

SPEAKER_03 40:55

It's the back, it's no no, it's nothing like blackjack. Well, blackjack means you gotta get 21. Yeah, but so imagine if you could play blackjack, but bet the dealer gonna win.

SPEAKER_02 41:04

See, yeah, it's totally different. Well, you can bet on yourself or the dealer, yeah. See, that's why I said it's my and then you can keep track of cars, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 41:13

It's a board, everything you have your own. If you're in a casino, you got your own cheaper. They got the board right there, though.

SPEAKER_03 41:19

There's a board up there, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 41:21

I want to go inside, huh? Inside the casino.

SPEAKER_03 41:23

Inside the casino, it's a board. Yeah, keep that. No, it's a board right there.

SPEAKER_06 41:27

You don't gotta write it down. That's because you won't be with the Asians. Who don't? The monk people who don't get the baby. I'm back in the back.

SPEAKER_07 41:33

They gotta be rich. Bring it back, bring it back.

SPEAKER_02 41:37

All right, get it poppin'.

SPEAKER_07 41:39

She says tip over.

SPEAKER_02 41:40

All right, so let me so let me ask y'all this question, man. Um, y'all shouldn't know everybody everybody got kids in this room, all right. So I won't some of us steal their kids.

SPEAKER_03 41:52

Me because this nigga not I'm older than all of y'all. I'm sorry, but crazy a good day. Never mind.

SPEAKER_02 42:01

So this is what this is what I want to ask y'all. So the the this question came in from a fan who is dealing with an issue with the parenting whole situation, right? Okay, so I want to ask. I know some of y'all kids might be kind of young, y'all ain't really experienced this part of it yet, but sometimes y'all might not see eye to eye on how to raise the child. So my me and my 12-year-old. You is he 12?

SPEAKER_06 42:32

Oh, yeah. Everybody, no, I'm just saying me. I've been 12 years, I've been trying to figure it out.

SPEAKER_02 42:37

So this person says that they feel like their the husband parenting is harsh. Like everything is discipline, fear, control, etc. And the reason being is because he said he's preparing his son for life. He says that she feels like he's disciplining his son based off of how he came up because his parents were his dad was an addict, and his dad was abusive. So he's taking those attributes and utilizing it in the discipline, in the disciplinary part of you know, their child. So this nigga get hi, I'm blaming the kid, but she's it's no high into it, it's just the way that he does it. He's very strict, he's very militant, he's very you know, hands-on, you know, control, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, I'm putting the fear of God in you to make you not do the dumb stuff, right?

SPEAKER_03 43:38

That's and I guarantee when that little nigga get free, he's gonna do the dumbest shit ever. That's that's that's that's he's gonna go platinum. That's not they ain't gonna know what hit him.

SPEAKER_02 43:48

But from not from the kids standpoint, though, I just want to talk about it from like the parenting standpoint, as of like still trying to be, we're gonna say still trying to be in a relationship and with. Gonna say just trying to co-parent correctly, you know what I'm saying? How do y'all handle that if if the your partner feels like you're not doing it right?

SPEAKER_06 44:10

Y'all, I wouldn't leave this. I've been like me and my son's mom, we've been growing over the last five years. We've grew a lot with co-parenting, especially with uh kids on the spectrum, it's real hard. I had to grow individually, and I had to realize what she would like what was triggering her, what she was scared of. I used to be what you were saying, uh very aggressive, all that yelling for no reason.

SPEAKER_03 44:36

Fake crazy type shit.

SPEAKER_06 44:37

But I'm doing this with my you know what? With my kid. You know what I'm saying? I mean, because you still feel like it's out of love. Yeah, because that's what I that's all I knew. Right. But she made me open my my my mind like to parenting. It's not one side, it ain't two sides. It's whatever fits your child. Yeah, whatever's best for your child. Some kids, some kids need some little extra, you know, show do. Yeah, you should have.

SPEAKER_03 45:06

I be seeing kids get away with murder.

SPEAKER_06 45:08

My son, 12 years old, never had to put it put my hands on him after he got a certain age, and I, you know, grew, never, I haven't raised my voice with my son in at least five, six years. Right. There's no reason to. He's very smart. He knows how if he's wrong, I'm gonna tell you why you're wrong and where we were gonna fix it. But between me and his mom, it was every time she says something, I didn't want to hear it. She nagged. But I got into that growth mode. I wanted to grow. So work. I made our relationship better by understanding and trying to parent different instead of just saying, I'm right.

SPEAKER_02 45:45

I like that. Now, now as a parent of a a bunch of them, right? The the hard part is it's no one way to do it. Because they're all different, right? Yeah, so my oldest was one of them ones where if he got beat, he would either not do it no more, or he would at least wait until it wasn't fresh into the mind before he did it again. He'd do it differently, he'd do it different. Like he was really strategic on trying to figure this out. Okay, that hurt it to the point where I'm not gonna do it no more, or I gotta figure out a better way to do this, right? Smart. The one up under him. I don't even know if we ever really had the that nigga was bad as hell. Well, he I think he got mild as a teenager, an older teenager.

SPEAKER_07 46:36

No, he was so laid back. No, dog was the one slicing up the the the chairs. Man, we both did that shit. Not already no, no, no.

SPEAKER_03 46:44

I'm pretty sure he was a ringleader. Uh no, it was his idea, but we both did it for sure. I remember vividly.

SPEAKER_07 46:51

I don't I feel like I feel like the second one was more sneaky, where the oldest one kind of just was like, but at the same time, it was mad y'all ain't get us no McDonald's.

SPEAKER_02 46:59

Crazy at the same time right now. When you no, no, I know that's what happened when you're young parents, right? At that time, you still feel like you could just parent all the kids the same way, right? You still growing as a parent, you still growing, are you still growing?

SPEAKER_07 47:11

I mean, especially because we was only 19 when we had our oldest man. Listen, well, I was 19 years old.

SPEAKER_03 47:16

I think they seen the slates of them chairs and threw the table at our heads. I don't remember my head.

SPEAKER_07 47:21

I ain't even gonna I even listen, not even like like over exaggerating. That was a motherfucking three thousand dollar table that they up.

SPEAKER_03 47:29

No, we never touched the table. We're not gonna tell chairs.

SPEAKER_07 47:31

Was included with that one.

SPEAKER_03 47:33

That was leather.

SPEAKER_07 47:35

The chairs was leather, they was uh cream colored. You don't care how much they cost when you threw them at our head, right?

SPEAKER_06 47:41

You already broke them.

SPEAKER_03 47:42

Diane Diane house that we was mad.

SPEAKER_07 47:46

We was in a room like bro, it was a marble table with eleven chairs. We finna go, bro. Them niggas slashed them up like Freddie was in that bitch. I bet not I came upstairs like what the fuck?

SPEAKER_03 47:58

They like not a new little niggas get cheeky nuts, not the new little niggas get whatever they want. I want some bignana.

SPEAKER_02 48:05

No, no, so then you get don't let them niggas fool you. Then you get down to that third one.

SPEAKER_03 48:12

That third one, then they turn softest pin.

SPEAKER_02 48:14

No, that's a thing. The third one probably honestly got worse treatment when it comes to the disciplinary part than the first two.

SPEAKER_03 48:25

Because though he he he deserved it, right?

SPEAKER_02 48:29

Because he was doing crazy.

SPEAKER_03 48:31

But but see, you used all the tricks already, though. So now what you can do. No, no, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_02 48:35

That's the thing. When you do it, and you be like, Yeah, if the whooping changed the first two, and this treatment right here didn't make them made this one want to go even harder. You'd be like, I gotta switch it. I can't, this ain't working.

SPEAKER_03 48:49

You gotta do something. You for sure did it in screen with them.

SPEAKER_02 48:52

I'm like, this ain't working, so I gotta do something. That ain't work either. I never got my ass. At some point, I feel like as a as a parent now, I feel like even if it didn't work then, some of this stuff is gonna come out and it'll help you later in life, hopefully. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 49:08

So, what y'all gonna do with the last one?

SPEAKER_02 49:10

The last one is a it's a different breed, though. The last one, y'all ain't never cried the way he cried. No, I ain't never been hurt by somebody looking at you and saying, I'm so disappointed. I'd be ready to you be ready to crash out.

SPEAKER_03 49:26

Hey, this hey, this this is how you gotta say too. It trickled down, right? It trickled down right because I look at him, he busts out crying. I'm ready to hit him with the fridge. What are you crying for?

SPEAKER_02 49:35

And that's it, it'd be different.

SPEAKER_03 49:36

You confused that be me though, like confuses you. And I say, Hold on, I can't even do that because he wasn't even exposed to what we was exposed to. So if I hit him with the fridge, he might run away. I don't know what I don't know how he's gonna react. I hit him with the fridge. I used to get hit with the fridge and go lay down and go to sleep. We'll try again tomorrow. You hit this nigga with the fridge, he's going to school. They hit me with the house, they slammed the house on my air, they ain't feed me all type of shit.

SPEAKER_07 50:02

The other day, I'm taking him to I'm taking him to school. I look, I don't, he had something on his shirt. I said, Dog, why the fuck is you okay going to school dirty? Like I just I just snapped on the nigga, he just had to be fresh with the heelys and shit.

SPEAKER_03 50:15

Yeah, I had to be fresh.

SPEAKER_07 50:16

But this is the thing, though. It ain't like he don't got it, he just don't put it on, or he he he the one he don't care about it.

SPEAKER_02 50:22

He lose it. Uh it'd be how do you it's certain things I don't understand how you look. That nigga lost that north face jacket.

SPEAKER_03 50:28

I said lost a pair of my shoes. You'll never get another. I had some brand new shoes. I went. I said, bro, where my other shoe? I didn't even know I left these shoes over here. I said, How are you even in my shoes? Oh no, he he about to pass, y'all. I'm dogging like a nine and a half.

SPEAKER_06 50:42

I'm still at running him running away, but yeah.

SPEAKER_02 50:45

I mean, and we at a at a level now where you ain't gonna run away. You can just come to me and tell me I'm out. But I'm like, all right, bet. He's dude, I'm gonna fight you. He's like a left. My son is always getting broke down. If you're making your decision, he's like a decision. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_03 51:00

You know what I'm saying? I ain't gonna lie, it's good. It's easy to break my son down with words, like literally. Yeah, it's something that irritates me so bad. Like, not even not with your son, but with little bro, because gang, it get way worse. You only like what do you like? What you mean? I just told you, like, bro, you really pissing me off. Maybe he's devastated. Like, what do you mean? Like, bro, we about take you in the basement of stomach.

SPEAKER_02 51:26

It gets so bad, you know. I I try to put an excuse on anything. I'm like, let me, I gotta figure this out. And I'm like, Well, you know what? He did have a rough coming in, right?

SPEAKER_03 51:35

This has to be the this gotta be it's so bold, right? Because if he got the pops that me and Lil' Bro got, that me and DJ got this, he wanna talk to you before you he whoop you. I don't like them type. So so so you talk to him, he busts out crying. You still gotta whoop him.

SPEAKER_01 51:51

Yeah, yeah, he takes the fun out of us.

SPEAKER_03 51:53

Oh my god. C me and Lil Bro used to be inspirational. It was crazy. We know we yeah, we was wrong.

SPEAKER_07 52:00

No, he definitely gonna let you know.

SPEAKER_03 52:01

Pops used to be like, all right, go ahead, go ahead, do the boom, and then it's whatever happened, happen. Pops just I no, it's good. Pops used to do this one move though. We'll be we'll get smart with mama, he'd come out of nowhere. Boom, come here. Oh, I ain't gonna lie, he did it back. Come here, boom. He do that to little bro.

SPEAKER_06 52:21

At the what are you gonna do then?

SPEAKER_03 52:23

He calling the police. I swear to god, I swear to god, he's gonna go to police.

SPEAKER_06 52:28

He do got his own phone.

SPEAKER_03 52:29

Dog immediately, he is gonna go to the police.

SPEAKER_07 52:31

He immediately calling his coach. No, he ain't never experienced nothing like that. No, but he has no. That's the thing.

SPEAKER_02 52:37

He had his moment, though. He has, he just he'll just take longer to get there. Bro, because I'm like, okay, last one. Maybe these conversations are helpful because he's so sensitive. But then when you just keep doing it, I'm like, okay, no more words. Come here.

SPEAKER_03 52:51

Then I'm confused because how? How you so sensitive? How? That's what I don't want to know. Oh brothers. I'm so confused. I said, bro, at least once I got some. We used to thump them all in his head.

SPEAKER_02 53:02

He's not sensitive when you when you what happened, so sensitive. Bro, Taz was a do-it. He was he was a boo when he was a baby. He's a nerd, bro. What happened?

SPEAKER_07 53:16

He was a do it though. What happened? Listen, see something there. I don't know. He's something there. He's like a gangster crab. What happened though?

SPEAKER_03 53:23

Because you gotta think when he was young, like when he couldn't even talk, throwing some young boy, he's throwing up gang songs. I got videos. He still act like that though. Bro, we used to make them fight. We used to make him fight little cousin.

SPEAKER_06 53:40

Nobody right now. He's gonna he's gonna get a few. Oh, he can fight though. Don't get it confused. I'm just saying, don't get it confused. He can fight. I didn't say that since you're not gonna make him listen.

SPEAKER_07 53:46

Dog is young boy.

SPEAKER_06 53:47

If he wanna fight, he's gonna fight about his own listen.

SPEAKER_07 53:50

Dog have young boy, have right way.

SPEAKER_06 53:53

Oh I just say I didn't heard him singing RB in the kitchen in the kitchen. So you're Marvin Gay.

SPEAKER_03 53:59

I think he a paranoid skizophrink.

SPEAKER_06 54:01

Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 54:04

Oh, yeah. It does. Yes. That's why you was acting like that yesterday. I was tripping yesterday. I ain't gonna lie. Y'all, I thought I seen something, and I told my brothers. I'm like, I see something, they get the woo ooh, totally different color. Like I had the wrong color and everything, y'all.

SPEAKER_06 54:22

Just everything.

SPEAKER_03 54:23

I'm so sorry for the people on the at that Airbnb. I'm so I apologize so much because I thought I seen something, but I didn't see it. But I I could have sworn I seen it's because you threw the fridge at me.

unknown 54:34

My hand.

SPEAKER_02 54:35

So you're so yours delayed. Why his can't we be delayed?

SPEAKER_03 54:38

I never hit a refrigerator, bro. You never did what? I never hit you with a refrigerator. Okay, let's call a friend. Let's call a friend. Let me call one of my cousins real quick.

SPEAKER_06 54:48

Hey, we don't phone friends here, bro.

SPEAKER_02 54:51

We're having no witnesses. All right. So look, we're gonna wrap this episode up. We're gonna come back next week with even more heat. KD, talk to him, talk about it.

SPEAKER_07 55:01

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unknown 55:08

Huh?

SPEAKER_06 55:08

Bud Sprout.

SPEAKER_07 55:09

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SPEAKER_06 55:12

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SPEAKER_07 55:14

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SPEAKER_05 55:27

Mm-hmm. Where can we follow you at?

SPEAKER_03 55:29

Y'all don't want to come on my page.

SPEAKER_07 55:31

Don't you got a plug to do?

SPEAKER_03 55:33

Huh? Ain't you a brand ambassador for somebody? Oh, go cop that rich disciples. Use code free2030 for some free excuse me off. Be fresh. And that's copyrighted.

SPEAKER_06 55:45

That's copy that's copyrighted. Every time you say a free excuse me.

SPEAKER_03 55:48

Oh, I got a question. If the person who copyrighted it die, who is it copywrighted? How can they? Where do they go get the outcome? Grace Grace makes a lawsuit. Rich Disciples. Grace makes a lawsuit. Rich dot disciples on Instagram. Ain't it? It's an underscore on there, ain't it? Nah, you might be dyslexic.

SPEAKER_07 56:06

Who dyslexic? Jeez.

SPEAKER_03 56:08

I don't know who I'm dyslexic. Where you see an underscore at? Tore that word. All of you. Huh? You speaking on mean? I haven't slept since Friday.

SPEAKER_08 56:18

All right.

SPEAKER_02 56:18

It's Sunday. With that being said, man, I am the one and only coach DTM.

SPEAKER_07 56:22

Your girl KD.

SPEAKER_02 56:23

Mr. 1015. The biggest Red Wrist band. And this has been yet another episode of Relationship Reality Podcast. We see you next week. Don't miss it.

SPEAKER_03 56:33

Talk about no relationship shit. Yes, we did. Where have you been?

SPEAKER_02 56:36

It was late. We actually talked about two, three actually, but you were late, but it's cool. But in that case, so long.

SPEAKER_00 56:41

Bye bye. So long.

SPEAKER_02 56:43

So long.

SPEAKER_00 56:45

Goodbye. Goodbye to my pain.